From my personal experience, recognizing why we hold onto harmful relationships is a crucial step toward healing and self-growth. Often, the root cause lies in a lack of self-esteem or an inner void that we unconsciously try to fill by admiring or depending on those who seem unattainable or superior to us. It's common to believe that gaining their approval means we are worthy, but this mindset can trap us in a cycle of pain and disappointment. One practice that helped me break free was shifting my focus inward — working on building my self-respect and acknowledging my own value. Reading reflections like "Gánh ngang gánh dọc cuộc đời nổi trôi đến mấy" (Life's burdens and drifting) reminded me how emotional struggles are universal, and that healing comes when we stop measuring worth based on others' treatment. Another insight is observing how our relationships transform from meaningful bonds into tests of our worthiness. When we constantly seek validation, we lose authentic connection and instead face emotional trials that undermine our confidence. This realization encouraged me to set boundaries and prioritize relationships that uplift rather than diminish my spirit. I also found that engaging with supportive communities or forums, similar to the #laclac thread mentioned, fosters mutual encouragement and provides a safe space to share these vulnerabilities. Remember, acknowledging that you're enough—regardless of others' attitude—opens the door to healthier connections and a more stable sense of self.