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Trauma Responses We Normalize But Shouldn’t

Many of the behaviors we criticize ourselves for are actually trauma responses that helped us survive unsafe or overwhelming environments.

❌Over-apologizing.

❌People-pleasing.

❌Avoiding conflict.

❌Doing everything alone.

As a psychologist, I want to be clear: these patterns aren’t flaws, they’re learned protections. And healing doesn’t mean shaming them away. It means gently choosing new ways when safety allows.

You’re not broken.

You adapted.

Save this if you’re learning how to unlearn.

Share with someone who needs this reminder 🤍

#TraumaResponses

#TraumaInformed

#HealingJourney

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Wait. I didn't expect to be called out 5 for 5.

Kimberly Baxter Davis

I am a psych patient since my 20’s with bipolar, and generalized anxiety disorder. I do absolutely everything on here. Ihave MANY trauma responses but zero recollection of any trauma. In my mind I had an incredible childhood. Lost both my parents early (Daddy was 46 and Mama was 57) losing daddy to a firey car crash and Mama to cancer. Had some messed up relationships but I believe my mental health played a role in their demise. How do I find out what my trauma is? I can’t Fix it if I don’t know.

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