Ebby Queen 👑

124 followers

Follow

Follow

Follow

1/2

0 saved

5

I Stopped Waiting to Be Chosen…

& Became Unforgettable. 👑✨💋

Designed By: @Ebby Queen 👑

#Lemon8Diary #beautyfinds #embracevulnerability #fyp #ai /Georgia

3/28 Edited to

Choosing to stop waiting for others' approval can be a powerful turning point in anyone's life. When I decided to stop waiting to be chosen, I embraced vulnerability, which allowed me to connect more authentically with myself and others. Vulnerability is often perceived as weakness, but in reality, it's a courageous act that opens doors to genuine relationships and self-growth. From personal experience, once I embraced my true self — imperfections and all — I found that people resonated with my authenticity. This authenticity translated into a unique presence that made me unforgettable. One key factor I noticed was how beauty and self-care, highlighted through my favorite beauty finds, boosted my confidence. Taking time for yourself isn't just about appearance but also about nurturing your soul. Incorporating AI tools creatively helped me express and design my personal style, further enhancing my individuality. Whether it was planning content or experimenting with new looks, AI became a helpful ally on my journey. Living in Georgia added a vibrant cultural backdrop to this transformation, blending southern charm with modern empowerment. If you're struggling with waiting for others to choose or validate you, I encourage you to try embracing vulnerability and taking proactive steps toward self-love. It's not always easy, but the reward is an unforgettable you — confident, empowered, and beautifully authentic.

Related posts

I stopped waiting to be chosen.

The mirror doesn’t show weakness anymore, it shows the woman who survived her own fire. I don’t chase, I attract. I don’t force, I flow. I’ve become the spell I was always searching for. Elegance is my armor. Magick is my essence. I am shielded and seen. 🕯️ If you could call your energy back

14 likes

A bedside table with books, a white tumbler, and a candle, next to a bed with pink and white bedding. The image features the title "How To Start Showing Up As The Woman You Want To Be" in pink text, with the book "Good Vibes, Good Life" visible.

A pink overlay with points 1-4 of a guide on "How To Start Showing Up As The Woman You Want To Be." These points include getting clear on who she is, embodying her energy, letting go of the old self, and creating daily rituals.

A pink overlay with points 5-8 of a guide on "How To Start Showing Up As The Woman You Want To Be." These points include being intentional with time, taking action, speaking life into yourself, and staying consistent, with a blurred background of a laptop and pink dumbbells.

The Day I Stopped Waiting & Started Becoming✨

I used to wait for the ‘right time’ to step into the woman I wanted to be. I kept telling myself, ‘Once I have more confidence, once I have everything together, once I feel ready…’ But the truth? I was never going to feel fully ready. One day, I had to decide to show up as her now—even if I wasn’t

17.3K likes

Broke and Boo’d Up? Not This Summer! Try These 8 🌸

Let’s be real, sis , it’s not too late to turn this summer into your softest, richest, most aligned season yet. You’ve poured into people, waited for love to feel right, and told yourself “one day” when it comes to making money online. But what if this is the season you finally stopped waiting t

42 likes

Sacred Rage Holy Love

this year, I stopped begging to be chosen. and started choosing myself — in silence, in softness, in sacred rage. this isn’t just poetry. it’s my permission slip to feel again. to touch what hurt. to stop waiting in the hallway. SRHL 🕊 a reckoning. a release. a reclaiming. #poetr

5 likes

“I stopped waiting to be chosen… and found the woman I was becoming all along.”

3 likes

I stopped waiting to be chosen. I chose myself — and everything changed. 💕✨ This is your sign to fall in love with your own energy. Save this. Read it daily. Become her. Link in bio bestie boo #BecomingHer #SelfLoveEra #SoftGirlEnergy #fypシ゚viral ✨ #lemon8dairy

4 likes

Redefining My Life, My Heart, and My Habits✨

In my 30s, I’m making a decision—to stop surviving and start surrendering. I’m tired of repeating cycles, pouring into empty places, and feeling spiritually dry. Becoming a God-fearing woman doesn’t mean I’ll became perfect—it means I’ll become intentional. I started seeking Him before opinions,

18 likes

Loving someone deeply doesn’t mean abandoning yourself to prove it. There comes a moment when you realize that love shouldn’t feel like begging to be chosen, understood, or fought for alone. Walking away isn’t a lack of love—it’s an act of self-respect. You can love someone with your whole heart an

21 likes

A laptop keyboard in the foreground with a screen displaying a document about generative AI skills and a graph. Overlay text reads "BAD STUDY HABITS I DITCHED," introducing the article's theme.

A desk with a pink checkered pouch, clear sticker pouch, and a pen holder. Overlay text "1. rewriting notes word-for-word" and speech bubbles explain focusing on understanding over aesthetics by summarizing.

A laptop on a wooden table in a cafe, displaying a document, with a slice of cake and fork nearby. Overlay text "2. watching full lectures before exams" and speech bubbles discuss using summaries and active recall.

Things I stopped doing that made studying easier

the study habits i ditched (and I never looked back) I used to make studying way harder than it needed to be. Like… rewriting entire textbooks, obsessing over perfect notes, and switching apps every week because I thought it would "fix my productivity" 💀 But once I dropped these habit

33 likes

🧘 Intentional Living

If you wish to be loved, love.” — Seneca 🤍 This one stopped me. Because most of us are waiting. Waiting to be chosen. Waiting to be appreciated. Waiting to be valued. But what if the energy we’re craving… starts with us? Love isn’t just romance. It’s how you: • Speak to yourself •

6 likes

A woman with dark wavy hair, red lipstick, and gold hoops, wearing black overalls, holds a peach rose in a garden. Her eyes are closed in a serene expression. Overlay text encourages, "To the girl who's not been herself lately. Your spark will return. And you will shine like you are meant to be."

“No More Waiting to Be Chosen — I Choose Me Now.”

I didn’t lose myself. I just forgot how loud my power was when I stopped shrinking. This walk? It’s not for them. It’s for the version of me who begged to be chosen when she already had the crown. I’m not becoming her — I’ve always been her. Now I move like it. #SheReclaimedHer #SoftPowe

4 likes

Choosing Yourself

“I stopped waiting to be chosen and chose myself.” ✨ There was a time when I mistook patience for virtue and silence for grace. When I believed that if I stayed agreeable, available, and understanding long enough, someone would finally see me and say yes. But choosing yourself is the moment

26 likes

This is for you.

🪞✨ He was soft in ways he never had permission to be… And she? She stopped waiting to be chosen and became her own devotion. This is the language of two people healing in different corners of the same storm. One learning to feel again. One learning to stop begging for what should have been s

63 likes

She’s the boss and the plot twist💅

Let’s normalize rebranding as the leading lady of your life AND the CEO of your vision 🖤 I stopped waiting to be chosen and started casting myself in the role I’ve always deserved. This era is all about control, confidence, and cute planners. ✨ Are you ready to step into your CEO ✖️ Main Charact

11 likes

✨Things I Stopped Doing That Made Me Happier 🤍🌿

Happiness did not come from adding more to my life. It came from releasing habits, mindsets, and patterns that quietly drained my energy. Letting go created space for peace, clarity, and self-trust🌿 If any of these resonate, take it as permission to choose yourself a little more. Growth does not

37 likes

If you’ve ever started a journal and then stopped,

you’re not alone. Most people think it’s a “discipline” problem. But really? It’s an emotional one. When we slow down enough to listen, the noise inside gets loud. So we scroll. We clean. We promise we’ll start again next Monday. The trick isn’t forcing yourself to write more. It’s learni

336 likes

I stopped chasing trendy workouts

I used to force myself into whatever was popular—HIIT, bootcamps, the “go harder” grind. But it never felt right. One day, I finally listened to my gut. I stopped punishing my body. And I started moving in a way that actually made me feel good. Now, movement is how I regulate my nervous sy

8 likes

Not waiting to be chosen — I choose myself.♥️

Pinterest inspired 😍 #lemon8creator #lemon8beauty #lemon8fashion #softglamlook #nanobanana

57 likes

I didn’t quit my job. I lost it.

I didn’t plan to leave my job. I lost it and assumed finding another one would be simple. I had experience. I had skills. I had a resume I trusted. What I didn’t have was control. Applications turned into silence. Interviews led nowhere. And I realized something that scared me. My in

3 likes

✨ I stopped waiting to be heard ✨

As a Black woman in the South, I’ve had my concerns brushed off more times than I can count. It’s frustrating when you know something’s not right in your body, but no one’s really listening. So I stopped waiting to be heard and started listening to myself instead. I became more active. I paid

21 likes

stop waiting to be _____ in order to love yourself

😔I grew up being told by my family that being fat meant that I was unattractive, undesirable, and unloveable. It was my ‘fatal flaw’. 🏃‍♀️And while I worked really hard to lose weight, I always felt like I didn’t deserve love from others, or myself, until I was skinny. I thought that being skin

539 likes

She stopped asking permission to walk in what God

She realized she didn’t need approval to obey God. The same God who called her also equipped her, anointed her, and went before her. When she stopped waiting for permission from people, she started walking in confidence with God. Not out of pride — but out of obedience. She no longer s

9 likes

Resist the urge to be chosen.. choose yourself 💕

You stopped waiting for permission. You stopped begging to be seen. Now you show up for you. That’s not ego—it’s healing. That’s growth. 🌱✨ #SelfWorth #ChooseYourself #HealingJourney #GrowthMindset #SelfLove

6 likes

lessons God taught me

this year taught me so much about who God is and who He is shaping me to be. i walked through moments that felt confusing at first, but later i realized they were actually covered in His mercy. God kept showing me that He is intentional with every detail of my life, every closed door, every delay,

69 likes

Things I Stopped Doing to Make More Money

I Stopped Living Average & My Income Changed More money didn’t come from hustling harder. It came from cutting habits that kept me thinking, moving, and living like everyone else. Average routines quietly produce average results — even when you’re “working hard.” Once I stopped doing what m

4 likes

Signs You’re Finally Choosing Yourself

Somewhere along the way, you stopped begging to be chosen and started choosing yourself. Not out of spite. Not to prove a point. But because your spirit got tired of waiting to be seen in spaces that only wanted the convenient parts of you. This season of your life isn’t selfish. It’s sacr

9 likes

I stopped being myself just to be loved by him

He never said, “I don’t like the real you.” But his actions did I slowly became someone else to be who he wanted. Someone quieter. Less emotional. Easier to deal with. And I told myself that was love… that this is what relationships were supposed to feel like… Like work. Like suppressi

17 likes

You’re Not Being Chosen… You’re Being Used

If you feel like you have to give your body just to keep his attention… pause for a second. Because real connection doesn’t disappear the moment you set boundaries. When someone only shows effort when things turn physical, that’s not love, that’s access. And the more you give to keep him, th

16 likes

To Be Chosen🖤

#acting #actingchallenge #actingvideos #tobechosen #thechosenone #pov #actingpov

675 likes

Things I stopped doingto save my relationships

5 likes

I Stopped Waiting for the Perfect Time

I stopped waiting for the perfect time and started living in the messy middle. Turns out “not ready” was the exact qualification I needed. If you’re postponing a dream, a text, a boundary, a glow-up, drop whatever you’re waiting to feel “ready” for below. Let’s burn the waiting room down together.

10 likes

I stopped waiting for someone to travel with me 🦋

#solotravel #solotraveling #travelingalone #solotrips #bookthatflight

23 likes

I am not waiting to be chosen. I already am

Good morning Queens, Remember this: you are not waiting to be chosen you already are. Sacred singleness is not about lack, it’s about becoming love within yourself. Today, whisper this to yourself: I am whole. I am divine. I am becoming. Your singleness is not your weakness. It is your becom

2 likes

10 things I stopped doing to protect my peace

Protecting your peace is a non-negotiable act of self-love and preservation, it's about recognizing what nourishes your soul and what depletes it. By setting boundaries and honoring your needs, you reclaim ownership of your time and energy. It's liberating to prioritize your mental and

56 likes

I Stopped Begging For It

Read this slowly: You’re not hard to love. You just kept asking for it from people who didn’t know how to give it. You kept overgiving, over-explaining, and over-accommodating, just to be tolerated. That’s not love. That’s survival mode in disguise. You’re not too much. You were just b

19 likes

A woman with long dark hair, adorned with gold jewelry and a headpiece, walks hand-in-hand with a small child through a bustling, sunlit ancient city festival. Both have serious expressions, with the child looking directly forward.

The First Quarter Festival, 3998 BCE - Uruk to the Nile River Valley The Festival of Growing Light filled Uruk’s streets with music and laughter, with vendors selling honey cakes and children running through the crowds with ribbons streaming behind them. The air smelled of roasting meat and fres

2 likes

I Stopped Waiting to Burn Out Before I Rested

There was a time I only slowed down when I had no choice. When I was overwhelmed. When I was exhausted. When I had nothing left to give. But now? Rest is part of my lifestyle. I don’t earn it. I don’t delay it. I don’t wait until I’m drained. I choose it. Because I’ve learned

9 likes

A person is seen from behind, sitting at a table and reading an open book. In the background, there is a lush green waterfall, suggesting a serene outdoor or cafe environment.

A miniature shopping cart is filled with various cosmetic products like nail polish and makeup. Below, a black banner reads "1. IMPULSE SHOPPING," followed by text explaining a 24-hour rule to avoid unplanned purchases for non-essential items.

A person's hand holds a disposable coffee cup, wearing a denim jacket over a floral top. Below, a black banner reads "2. PAYING FOR CONVENIENCE," followed by text about reducing takeout and coffee runs by cooking and making drinks at home.

Things I stopped doing to save money

Saving more money started with quitting a few costly habits. I gave up impulse shopping, paying for convenience, and ignoring small expenses to take control of my finances. These changes made a big impact on my savings. Swipe to learn which habits to ditch! 🌟 #lemon8partner #moneytips #pers

7 likes

Stop Waiting to Be Chosen Choose Yourself First”

📘 I didn’t write this book because I had all the answers. I wrote it because I finally stopped asking the wrong questions. Becoming Love: Embracing Singleness is not about fixing loneliness. It’s about rediscovering wholeness especially for women who are learning to sit with silence, choose them

2 likes

Not everyone who watches you is for you. I stopped waiting to be chosen… and started choosing myself instead. Somehow, that’s where everything changed. #chooseyourself #solotravel #selfworth #maincharacterenergy

0 likes

I stopped chasing validation… and everything changed 🤍

I used to chase approval. People’s opinions. Likes. Attention. Validation. But none of it ever filled the emptiness… Because I was looking in places that were never meant to satisfy me. The moment I shifted my focus— from being seen by people to being known by God… everything chang

1 like

A laundry room with white walls, a wooden counter, and dark washer and dryer. Text states "5 years ago I picked up my first power tool... And never looked back," indicating the start of a DIY journey.

A transformed laundry room featuring green wainscoting, floral wallpaper, a gold mirror, and a wooden stool. The text "I worked room by room transforming each space from builder grade to custom. All done by me" highlights the DIY renovation.

A nursery room with white walls, a white crib, a gray rocking chair, and a brown ottoman on a carpeted floor. The text "No wall was left untouched" emphasizes the extent of the home transformation.

What are you waiting for?

5 years ago o had never touched a power tool, but once I did I couldn’t be stopped. Small projects turned to big projects and before I knew it I was doing whole rooms, and even other people’s spaces. I still have a lot to learn but I hope you’ll take this journey with me 🩷 #diy #diyhome #diypr

867 likes

CLEVELANDS QB WE BEEN WAITING FOR!

Finally found the chosen one #shedeursanders #clevelandbrowns #nflfootball

82 likes

Things I stopped doing to gain peace in my life

Things I stopped doing to gain peace in my life #letgo #peacefulmind #healingjourney💜 #innerpeace #Lemon8

1 like

Stop waiting to be chosen

At some point, you stop waiting for someone to pick you. To validate you. To make you feel worthy. And you start doing it for yourself. You make your own mornings softer. You stop chasing love that feels like proving. You remember that choosing yourself isn’t selfish, it’s sacred. This

1 like

The image displays a list titled 'I No Longer Apologize For...' It features seven points with icons, such as 'Laughing too loud,' 'Feeling deeply,' 'Wanting consistent love,' 'Taking up space,' 'Being intuitive,' and 'Having high standards,' emphasizing self-acceptance and embracing one's true self.

I Stopped Apologizing For Being Me

💫 The soft, wild, magical parts of me they tried to dim For years, I tried to shrink myself. To make other people more comfortable with my existence. I thought if I toned it down — my voice, my needs, my emotions — I’d be easier to love. But now I know better. Now I know softer doesn’t mean

511 likes

🌾Weighted & Waited Wednesday 🌾

🌾Weighted & Waited Wednesday 🌾 Breaking Bread at the Mustard Seed with Stacey 🍞Just a Little Daily Bread…🍞 ‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭10‬:‭5‬ ~ “We can demolish every deceptive fantasy that opposes God and break through every arrogant attitude that is raised up in defiance of the true knowled

13 likes

Chosen not Chasin’ Official Visual - Link in bio 🎥

This is the first glimpse of the Chosen Not Chasing visual 📸🎥🔆🤲🏾✨ I made this for the ones who stopped forcing, stopped reaching, and chose themselves instead. Thank you for growing with me, trusting the process, and holding space for my art. 🎶 Chosen Not Chasing — full video + song out n

16 likes

Picked ? Or Chosen ?✨

✨ There’s a difference between being picked and being chosen… And the day I chose me first, I stopped accepting substitutes. 💭 If it’s not clear, consistent, and intentional—it’s not for me. #HealingInk #KeriKantStopTalking #SelfWorth #ChosenNotPicked #HealingJourney

12 likes

See more