Some advice I have on dating/life
1.Communication is at the top cause it is very important
Always make sure to make time to listen to one another about anything that may be going on.
2.Make time for them ( life can get crazy but in the craziness the best time to distress is with the one you love most)
3.Go on dates when you have free time ( when you work a lot sometimes it’s hard but even an hour or so can make a big difference and let them know that they are also important to your daily life)
4.Maybe get a pet together ( I’ve grown such a bigger bond with my fiancee ever since we got a pet together, just know you have a pet to take care of with someone you trust makes your heart melt when you see them happy and have the same bond with said pet)
5.Always make sure they know you are in their corner when needed. (If you need to sit down and talk with them about what may be bothering them if they seem stressed or worried about the relationship and see what can improve)
6.Just make sure they know you love them.
I’m a girl who constantly need reassurance because of the life I’ve lived (but everyone is different!) but it’s always nice to hear I love you, or you are so important to me I’m thankful for the day I met you.
7.The little things matter. (Mostly to everyone) sometimes it may seem small, but it may not be small to the other person. So talk it out if it’s a fight. Just make sure the environment is level to talks about the small things.
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