Validation and support after someone hurts you. 🫶🏼

New book coming soon 🤩 #traumahealing #emotionalintelligence #socialskills #selfpublished #booktok

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This is some insane math.

#indieauthor #selfpublished #kdp #kdpamazon #bookroyalties

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KDP self publishing tips

Please comment with your tips and tricks on KDP. #indieauthor #indieauthorsoftiktok #kdp #selfpublishedauthor #bookpublishing

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Have you done this?

Have you hit this point in life yet? I got rid of several pairs of jeans I had to buy when I lost weight during a season of crisis. Now I’m carrying extra weight from long covid keeping me sedentary. It’s important for me personally to not expect myself to ever fit back into the small crisis clothe

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How do we feel about him raising those kids by himself?

#elizabethholmes #nathanfielder #youcanseeeverything #theranos #hottakes

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Last two of twelve slides from previous post

Do you ever feel weirdly embarrassed after doing something kind for someone? There's a word for that. I call this the exposure gap—not a clinical term, just the most honest name I can find for the distance between what you put into something and what the other person is able to perceive. The

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Ten of twelve slides. See next post for the last two.

Do you ever feel weirdly embarrassed after doing something kind for someone? There's a word for that. I call this the exposure gap—not a clinical term, just the most honest name I can find for the distance between what you put into something and what the other person is able to perceive.

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Abusers often weaponized this Bible verse 👎🏻

Listen to the whole explanation to understand the true meaning of these often abused verses. #bibleverse #abuse #spiritualabuse #domesticabuse #christianity

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Two voiced podcast on substack

Does conflict feel catastrophic or dangerous? You didn’t get that way for no reason. Learn why complex trauma can make even simple conflict feel like a crisis, and how to make it less exhausting. #podcastdiscussion #traumainformed #traumahelp #mentalhealth #complexptsd

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Are you feeling sadder than you’d have expected about Dolly?

#dollyparton #dollypartontribute #cptsd #complextrauma #iwillalwaysloveyou https://ellentift.substack.com/p/why-some-of-us-are-sadder-about-dolly?r=43ial2

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Being misunderstood 👎🏻

“There’s a particular grief in finally accepting that no explanation will work, because the person on the other side isn’t looking for understanding no matter how perfectly you may articulate your side. They’re too focused on looking for confirmation of what they’ve already decided about you to act

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Did you know there’s more than one type of forgiveness?

Researches have defined two types of forgiveness. One is “decisional forgiveness,” which means you’ve decided not to retaliate, and you’ll stop bringing up the offense. And “emotional forgiveness” is when you feel the resentment itself shifting. So you can decide to forgive someone and still feel m

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Do you argue with someone when you’re alone?

"We’ve all done this, haven’t we? Sitting alone in our car at a red light, telling off someone who isn’t there, and suddenly you realize someone’s looking and you try to pretend you’re only singing with the radio. (Just me?)" #cptsdhealing #cptsdrecovery #cptsdsupport #cptsdawa

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Does your nervous system feel like any conflict is dangerous?

“That instant alarm is an intelligent survival response that developed in an environment where conflict genuinely was dangerous… Maybe the people who were supposed to keep you safe were the ones who were most unpredictable when displeased.” #cptsd #complextrauma #complexptsd #conflictr

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CPTSD survivor’s guide to conflict

“She hated confrontation and wanted to give him a chance to do the right thing. Instead, he seemed completely unbothered, even daring to yawn and stretch as he came into the food truck. Then he had the nerve to say something about needing to leave a little early, and that was when Aggie felt a surg

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7 non-negotiable needs you can hold firm on

From the chapter on Conflict in an upcoming book in my series about #complextrauma #cptsd #narcissisticabuse #complexptsd #emotionalabuse https://www.amazon.com/stores/Ellen-Tift/author/B0GHKWRDJ5

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You brain can Rewire from complex trauma

Navigating Complex Trauma & What It Does to You from the chapter on the effects of #narcissisticabuse on the brain. #cptsd #complexptsd #complextrauma #cptsdhealing https://a.co/d/0h3chgUJ

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CPTSD survivors with post traumatic healing

It was an honor to be interviewed by Dr. Niyati. 💛🙏🏼 #cptsd #complextrauma #complexptsd #ComplexPTSDrecovery #cptsdsurvivor https://open.substack.com/pub/niyatikadakia/p/warrior-women-ellen-tift-in-conversation?r=43ial2&utm_medium=ios

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When healing takes so much time 🌸

Do you ever feel like the time you spend trying to heal will put you behind in life? I don’t know about you, but when my CPTSD demands that I slow down and tend to my healing, I can feel anxious about how much else I’m not getting done. But if you’re like me, the nervous system has a mind of its o

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Do you ever feel invisible? 🕶

Do you ever feel invisible? Many of us have days where it seems like the whole world is forgetting we exist. Or maybe they never even knew to begin with. For CPTSD survivors, this may even bring up a level of anxiety, despair, or dread. But it may be so normal that this just feels like baseline em

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