To myself...Best friends in life (when we stop expecting tenderness from anyone) on a day when the earth spins so fast that we fall.

To myself...Best friends in life (when we stop expecting compassion from anyone)

On a day when the world is rotating so fast that we fall, or on a day when we can't stand the pressure, our deep instincts may still be looking for someone to understand, stroke our backs, and offer compassion, but the fact that the world often teaches men like us an expensive lesson is that we can't expect kindness or compassion from anyone forever.

The world does not have a duty to support our fatigue, and everyone has a wound or a life obligation to bear on their shoulders, so tying their happiness and worth to the mercy of others is like building a house on a pile of sand that is ready to collapse at any time.

Why should we stop expecting sympathy from others?

Expectations are the beginning of disappointment: the more we hope others to be nice to us, the more vulnerable we are. When they do not respond in the way we hope, we may feel bad. In fact, the value in us has not diminished.

No one understands us as much as ourselves: even if one explains a hundred words of exhaustion, the listener can only understand ten words because he is not standing where we stand, not carrying the same weight as we are carrying.

Everyone has their own war: not always hating us, but because he is tired of surviving on his battleground.

How to turn yourself into your own "dead friend"

When we accept this fact, what we need to do is not to be pessimistic or hardened at anyone, but to turn around and shake your hands and slap your shoulders tighter.

1. Allow yourself to fall and get tired (without waiting for someone to comfort you) When a close friend has a hard time, we often drink as a friend and say, "It's okay, take it again." Do that to yourself. Let yourself get tired, be discouraged, and tell yourself that we are very good at going through to this day.

2. Stop insulting and aggravating yourself when you make a mistake. The most insidious enemy is often the voice in our head. When you make a mistake, you will be as good to yourself as when you forgive your closest friend. Change from the damn "Why are you so stupid?" to the word "Never mind. I'll do better next time."

3. Create happiness and success with our own two hands. Don't wait for someone to reward. Don't wait for someone to celebrate. Or wait for someone to see that we are good. Want something to find ourselves. Appreciate ourselves for being 100% self-reliant. Kindness from others will only become a "profit" in life. It is no longer an indispensable "main factor."

"Be your best friend, for on the day of the strongest storm, the only person who will stand and walk with you to the finish line is yourself."

Growing up is learning to sweat for ourselves, apply your wounds to yourself, and smile alone at the problems in front of us. When we stop expecting compassion from anyone, we discover true freedom...Freedom from trying to please anyone and finding strength inside that no one can take away from us.

Usually, on a heavy day, how do you pull your mind and encourage yourself?