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A four-year-old daughter does not want to sleep with her mother for many reasons, such as social development that begins to have a "favorite" (perhaps a father) or begins to be slightly separated, high imagination frightens the darkness or all around her, wanting to have a personal space, wanting to practice independence, or stressful events at home that prevent her from being around her mother temporarily (even if she loves her mother very much), which is typical of the development of children of this age.

Common causes:

1. Social and independent developments:

* "Favorite" (Daddy's Girl / Mommy's Girl): Children at this age begin to show a special preference for a parent, saying that they love their father more than their mother or want to sleep with them is normal, and it does not mean that they do not love their mother.

* Need for Personal Space: Children begin to need more privacy and their own space; sleeping alone or with their father helps meet this need.

* Courage Training: A child may want to prove that he is old enough to sleep alone.

2. Imagination and fear:

* Night Fear: Vivid fantasies scare a four-year-old from the dark, monsters under his bed, or scary things.

* Nightmare: A child may not want to sleep alone for fear of having another nightmare.

3. Emotional management:

* Let go when you are with your mother: Your child may harbor emotions and show stubbornness or disdesire to sleep with her when with her mother because it feels safe to be himself and express true emotions.

* Stress: Changes at school or at home may make children want to avoid being around their dearest (mother) to deal with their feelings.

4. Learning:

* "The Power of Words": Children of this age begin to understand the power of speech and use it to control situations or call attention.

How to cope:

* Create a solid routine: Have your child have a clear bedtime routine, such as reading light tales, showering.

* Reassure: Love and hug a lot of children wherever they want to sleep so that they feel secure that they always love their mother.

* Create a relaxed atmósfera: Turn on a dim light or use a night light to reduce fear.

* Talk: Ask your child why you do not want to sleep with your mother (if he is ready to answer) but not pressure.

* Give a choice: For example, "Do you want to sleep with your mother in bed or do you want her to read your bedside story?"

* Accept Change: This is part of your childhood development, always encouraging and a safe space for your children.