The trap of the Perfectionist. | Video published by กราฟวิว กลไกสมอง

🪞 The curse of the Perfectionist.

1. Do well but never feel good enough

Others saw that they were good, but in their heads they thought

"Still Can Do Better"

2. Fear of mistakes rather than failure

Because the mistake didn't feel like, "I made a mistake."

But became

"I'm not good enough."

3. Start slowly because you want to be 100% ready.

Think a lot, plan a lot, prepare a lot

So that sometimes people who started before the 70% model go further.

4. Get hard praise but get good criticism

10 compliments may not stick to the head.

But one sentence of reproach can be repeated all night

5. Rest is guilty.

Because the brain interprets that

"If you can do it again, why stop?"

6. Set the standard with yourself higher than with others

Others make mistakes → "It's okay."

I made a mistake → "Why can't this thing be done?"

7.Success does not create satisfaction, but often creates new standards.

Today it can do 90% → Tomorrow needs 95%.

So 95% → Why not 100%?

And the deepest curse is...

Perfectionists may not be as afraid of "doing bad" as they are afraid of.

"If I'm not good enough, will I still be worth it?"

So the solution doesn't have to become someone who "doesn't care about anything."

But is to gradually change from

"I have to do well to prove that I'm good enough."

"I want to be good because this means something to me, and even if I make a mistake, I still have the same value."

This is where the healthy striving is very different from self-inflicted perfectionism.