Do you know the words to raise children selfishly?
The response to develop self-control is... ⬇ ︎ ⬇ ︎ ⬇ ︎
Absolutely NG for children's selfishness
① "You won't be able to eat rice!"
▶ ︎ I can't have that perspective yet, so I don't know why it's not good
② "I'm saying no!"
▶ ︎ Pressure invites repulsion
③ "You always say it!"
▶ ︎ Even if you scold in a loud voice, your thoughts will stop because of fear. Only the anger will remain
④ Ignore
▶ ︎ I cry more because of anxiety, and the power itself to claim that it is not good to convey my feelings is lost
⑤ I will lose the roots
▶ ︎ If you keep saying it, you will misunderstand that it will pass. This is not respecting children, it's just being said.
then what should i do?
What I'm doing is
① "You must be hungry and want to eat sweets."
to accept feelings
② "Sweets are promised after rice."
The rules are consistent.
③ "Let's put it in XX-chan's candy bag so we can eat it later!"
to be able to wait in peace
It's easy to feel at ease if you write your name or put it in a special container and tell them that you can eat it later ✨
If it's juice, you can put it in the refrigerator saying "Let's cool it" ◎
④ "If you want to eat something, taste it?"
An alternative proposal.
⑤ "I waited until after the meal, so I can eat sweets!"
Admit what you could ✨✨
If you wait, it will come true, but knowing by experience will grow the power to control your feelings 😊
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子どものわがままを直す方法には、ただ叱るのではなく、子どもの気持ちや欲求をまず受け止めることが大切だと感じています。 例えば「お菓子が欲しい」とぐずった時、単に「ダメ！」と言うのではなく、「お腹が空いてお菓子が食べたくなったんだね」と共感し、子どもの気持ちに寄り添うことが、自分の気持ちをコントロールする力を育てる第一歩となります。 また、ルールは一貫性を持って伝えることが重要です。「お菓子はご飯の後」という約束を繰り返し伝え、待つことの意味や安心感を子どもに伝えられるよう、例えばお菓子バッグや冷蔵庫に入れてあげるなど視覚的に分かりやすくします。 さらに、代わりの提案をすることで、子どもの気持ちに応えつつ、適切な行動へと導けます。例えば「味見する？」など、すぐに欲求を満たせる小さな代替を提示することも効果的です。 これらの対応で、ただ「わがまま」として押さえつけるのではなく、子ども自身が待てた経験を積み「待てば叶う」という理解へとつながります。私も実践する中で、子どもの自己主張が尊重されつつ、親子共にストレスが減り、穏やかな日常が増えたことを実感しています。 ぜひ、わがままな子どもへの対応で悩んでいる方は試してみてください。子どもの気持ちを受け止め、安心して待てる環境を整えることで、自然と自己コントロール力を身につけていくはずです。
