10 ideas from the book How to Win Friendly and Motivate People

10 ideas from the book How to Win Friendly and Motivate People

1. If you want honey, don't kick the honeycomb.

Blaming or blaming others does not improve, but creates unnecessary enemies. People often don't accept mistakes easily, but instead find excuses to protect themselves. If you want work to move forward, don't let emotions lead decisions. Choose words and ways to make people accept rather than resist.

2. People will do what they want to do.

Forcing or intimidating someone to do something may work temporarily, but not in the long run. If you want someone to do something wholeheartedly, you have to make him feel that it is his own idea. Urging internal motivation is more powerful than external pressure.

3. Humans yearn for acceptance.

Nothing gives a person more encouragement than sincere praise. Strong criticism destroys confidence, but praise gives people the strength to want to do better, appreciate the advantages of others more, and you will always get positive energy back.

4. True knowledge is action.

Reading a book or learning a theory is just the beginning. What will make you understand is applying what you learn. If you do not act, you will eventually forget everything. This book is a guide, but change is up to you.

5. Smile is a magical power.

A sincere smile can change any situation. It creates a good feeling without words. No one always wants to be around the frowning person. Charming starts with smiling at the world and the world will smile back.

6. How to be a good conversationalist is to be a good listener.

Who wants to like you? Listen to him more. People like people who listen to him with real interest, not just wait to talk about themselves. Listening is the art of building relationships and honoring.

7. Avoid making enemies by reducing ego.

No one likes to be said wrong. The best way to change a person's mind is not to make him feel attacked. Say, "I might be wrong. Let's see the data?" This method opens up more people than a straight argument.

8. Let others speak more.

If you want to convince someone to talk to you, people believe in what they come up with rather than what they are subjected to, encouraging them to comment will make them feel part of the idea.

9. People need compassion.

Just saying "I understand you" can ease stressful situations. Compassion is the best bridge to relationships. It makes people more open-minded and ready to listen to you.

10. Criticize to be without hurting the relationship

If you want someone to improve, do not say "You did wrong," but use creative methods such as "If you try this, what do you think?" People will always be more open to reproach, gentle and artistic advice, and good results.