You’re trying to make sense of conflicting signals: what your gut feels, what your fear remembers, and what your heart still hopes is true. That internal battle can leave you exhausted: replaying conversations, questioning yourself afterwards, and feeling stuck in patterns you can’t seem t

You’re arguing about: • feeling unheard • emotional overload • rejection sensitivity • shutdowns • attachment wounds • masking • nervous system survival patterns And when ADHD, autism, trauma, or CPTSD are involved, relationships can feel even more confusing. That’s why I’m

You became easier to be around. But harder to find. And honestly? A lot of women don’t realise this is what survival looked like for them. You stopped: • asking for too much • reacting too much • needing too much You became calm. Capable. Easy. But underneath it all, you lost conne

I used to think I had a motivation problem. I didn’t. I was waiting to feel ready before I started anything. And that moment never came. So I stayed stuck - even though I was capable. Now I do it differently. I act first. Small. Messy. Done. And over time, that builds belief.

I didn’t start this podcast to go viral. I started it because I was tired of seeing people blame themselves for patterns they didn’t understand. 1,000 downloads later… I know it’s helping. If you’ve ever: ✨ Fallen too fast ✨ Stayed too long ✨ Questioned yourself instead of the situation

You said yes when you meant no You kept conversations going when you were done You showed up when your body needed rest And now you can’t do anything That’s not failure That’s what happens when masking catches up with you 🖤 I offer voice note support for moments like this when ever

For years I thought I was: • inconsistent • too much • then not enough • “a bit all over the place” I didn’t understand why I could be: confident in one room and completely shut down in another Turns out… It wasn’t personality. It was masking.

The solution isn’t “just pick something else.” It’s this: Lower the pressure. Give space. Let the nervous system settle. That’s when things become possible again. #audhd #neurodivergentlife #adhd #autism #sensoryneeds

Masking isn’t just “being fake” It’s often: - Reading the room - Managing risk - Staying safe And most conversations miss something important: AuDHD + complex trauma together. So people think something is wrong with them. There isn’t. The explanation just isn’t complete yet.

I didn’t know the word “hypervigilance” until recently. I just thought I was: too aware too sensitive too much But what I’ve come to understand is this: My body wasn’t overreacting. It was responding exactly how it had been trained to. Always scanning Always reading people Alway

“Am I safe here?” Not consciously. But your body is always asking. That’s why you: – read the room instantly – notice small changes in people – adjust yourself without thinking That’s hypervigilance. And masking? That’s what helped you stay safe in the first place. You’re not br

For years, I thought I was: too emotional too sensitive too much But really… I was adapting. Reading the room ➡️ Masking ➡️ Shrinking. ➡️ Performing. And at some point, you stop knowing what’s actually you and what’s survival. That’s where the self-doubt comes from because you’ve bee

Do you ever replay a conversation or text in your head wondering if you said the wrong thing? Did I overshare. Was I overreacting. Maybe I’m just too much. For many neurodivergent women this spiral happens almost automatically. Not because we are actually the problem. But because we’v

Have you ever walked away from a conversation thinking: Did I overreact? Am I too sensitive? Maybe I’m just too much? For many neurodivergent women this spiral happens automatically. Not because we are actually the problem. But because we’ve been told that story so many times we start

It may not seem like much, but we need to do something to get somewhere.

I recently joined @mediastormpod as an ambassador for @causewaycharity to talk about modern slavery in the UK. Too often these conversations focus only on the trauma. But survivor voices also carry insight, expertise and lived understanding that can help shape better responses and better policy.

For years I believed something was wrong with me in relationships. Too sensitive. Too intense. Too much. I would replay conversations afterwards wondering if I had said the wrong thing or felt something too strongly. But over time I realised something important. I wasn’t too much.

For most of my life I thought being sensitive was a flaw. If someone was hurting, I felt it too. If the energy in a room changed, my body reacted instantly. And I kept wondering: Why does it hit me so deeply? Why do I feel everything so intensely? But I’ve started to understand someth

Not because I didn’t want help… But because I was scared of losing myself. I’ve just finished week 3. 10mg → 20mg → now 30mg of Medikinet. Before I started, I kept thinking: What if it doesn’t work for me? Or worse… What if it changes me? I was scared the creativity would di

Not all chemistry is compatibility. Sometimes it’s uncertainty. If you grew up scanning for shifts… If unpredictability once meant survival… Ambiguity can feel magnetic. But steady doesn’t spike you. It regulates you. In this episode of Dating on High Alert, I unpack the trauma-dop