Review: That Angry Man Can't Feel Me Anymore🫨

"That angry man can't provoke me anymore."

Remind us not to jump into emotional warfare with others, not to be enslaved to negative emotions.

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Let us practice Self-Regulation (self-control), Empathy (compassion), Emotional Management (EQ) and Mindset modification.

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Introduction: Know emotions.

- Emotions are "natural." Accept and let go. Let go. It'll be calm. The more interested.

- Emotions are easy, predictable (if you know that watching / doing this will get angry, you don't have to avoid that situation), and easy to change. If you don't stick, new emotions will come in.

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Circumstances that cause us to accidentally use emotions

- Mired: Angry with the same person, the same thing. Blaming the other person will keep us from the same cycle. Knowledge and experience should be used to avoid that "pitfall."

- Follow the principle but the result is bad: Clinging to "I'm right" and forgetting to pay attention to the feelings of those around him. If he can't accept the feeling, the principle is meaningless.

- Clash with the Bad: The definition of a bad person is stupid, strong-willed, hypocritical, or good but distracted. Angry at these people is useless. Let him go to calm him down. Don't put negative emotions on yourself.

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Mindset Modification (Solution at Cause)

Think "resilient" to the situation, not to lose / win, white / black, but to be gray, maybe dark gray, light gray.

Old Thought (Blocking) > > > New Thought (Flexible)

- There's just this one. - That's it. > > > There's more. There's another choice.

- It has to be like this. > > > There are a variety of possibilities. This is just one option.

- He insults me > > > He's just criticizing.

- Hurry up and summarize the answer. > > > Let's leave it vague.

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Conclusion

> > > The easiest thing in the rules of emotion is, 'Just let go, and calm down.' The less we care about negative emotions, the more quickly we get away from them. "

> > > Distract to something else.

> > > Change what we can change. Do it.

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I like it a lot. Every day I find a lot of angry things, it's easier to let them out, see new perspectives, for example, maybe the person who is angry at us is not malicious, he just doesn't communicate well.

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♪ That angry person can't provoke me anymore

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Author: Hideki Wada

Translator: Gen. Chitvirkul

Publisher: Amarin. How to