Are my feelings valid?
Ok guys if you saw my last post then great! If not, that’s ok.
Just a quick refresher… I’ve been talking to this guy since the end of November. We’ve been good friends but feelings are there.
Anyways fast forward to today..
I was ordering food off of his phone and someone has messaged him on snap. I tried to swipe it away but instead it opened it. Well the girl that messagedc the message said “Can you video us on Sunday?” And I automatically had a feeling that I didn’t like. I knew what that meant. Well I got upset and then 30ish minutes later I brought it up. And I asked what she meant. And he responds with “she wants to hook up and the plan was made for Sunday but I was going to make up an excuse. I did the same thing last tuesday”
So here’s where I’m at. I know we’re both single and we can do what we want. I’m not necessarily mad. He didn’t technically do anything wrong. But if he gets jealous about me having guy friends and we’re doing adult things and he says he cares and likes me. I think I have a right to be upset that he’s making plans with another girl to go hook up..
I have deep strong feelings for this guy and this shi HURTSSS. Just to know he’s talking to other girls like that. What else is he doing behind my back?
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