Have a baby when ready (really ready?)

We are new mothers. At the age of 28, we chose a husband and had a child on the day we thought we were ready.

We've heard a lot about having children when we're ready, and we've helped two sisters raise grandchildren before, and we understand what it takes to have children...

But when we have children ourselves, who are very determined and when they are ready, we have money, time, a babysitter, a good husband, but in the end we feel, "Actually, the availability is not real." 😆

When we were pregnant, we had to endure a weak state because it took us nine months to create a human.

When we were born, we were in pain with a stillbirth wound, the body deteriorated like never before, couldn't help ourselves for almost three days.

The important thing is to hurt the nipples very much. The baby sucks very hard from the nipples a little to a big nipple. Afraid of getting the baby into the breast (and having to hurt like this every 2 hours). It hurts to the point of being hit by the nipples hard. Not including the milk pipe, clog, sore again. But in the end, we have passed that time.

While we are practicing parenting, learning your child's behavior, restoring ourselves physically and mentally...

We will find the words of those around us who are worried about us but use words that accidentally impair the mind, such as milk or not, why are you singing so much, baby stomachache or not, eating something unguarded or not, secretly eating cold water or not, baby crying because there is no milk, baby is not full or not?

At that time, we had to be very strong, the hormones that were swinging, the first-time adjustment of motherhood, the adaptation of living environment, the adaptation of words from the villagers.

We feel that the people around us are worried. Panik is too worried about us and our children to stress us out.

We thought we had a baby when we were ready, but in the end, it was ready for money, responsibility, time, etc., but that wasn't enough.

Inside the body, including the mind, we are not ready, and inevitably (it feels like a big adjustment in life).

In the first month, we were so stressed because people around us often interfered with raising our children that we were crazy, so depressed because of different ways of raising children, but finally came through.

Now that our baby is three months old, we are more concerned with raising children, hormones have stopped swinging, more immune from the words of the villagers, more hand fighting 😆, so that now no one dares to interfere with us like in the new birth.

We posted to want to share the experience of being a new mother. Each person's experience is not the same, but ours is like this.

Therefore, I would like to encourage you that all mothers are first-time mothers. Studying information, preparing is a good thing, but the work page will be another moment.

Please be patient with a lot of children. Don't be impatient. The bad things will pass today. Any day is tired, stressed, discouraged, a glass of warm nectar. Heal, mind yourself. Don't put too much pressure on yourself.

Finally, only we understand us the most. It's encouraging. ❤️

# Baby # First stomach # Human mother # In-laws abroad # Chinese in-law