No old children, how to live?

The question that 30 + people do not have children most often ask is

"No children. Too old. Who's to raise?"

Many people who ask this question don't want to hear the answer, they just want to confirm their assumption that people without children are very difficult.

But I need an answer for myself.

Because not having children is a life condition that I can't change.

And I had to live with it for another 50 years.

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My answer is to live strategically.

I started by looking at the destination.

I didn't just want to survive when I was old, I wanted to have a good quality of life and a dignified life.

The word dignity sounds beautiful, but it's ambiguous, so I gave it a new definition in this context:

Dignity = Autonomy

Autonomy = the ability to live on your own, make your own decisions, take care of yourself, not be in anyone's control.

Because "no choice" dependence on others is where dignity begins to disappear.

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To protect my Autonomy, I stood on three pillars.

I call it the BMM Framework.

B: Body: Strong body. Looks good with age. Moves on its own.

M: Mind: Resilient mind, crisis and growing up, learning new things.

M: Money: Financial Stability, Both Storage, Investment and Hedge

These 3 pillars are each other's Feedback loop.

Which pole will drag the other pole? Which pole is broken will drag the other pole down.

This is why self-care is a strategy.

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But the Framework has no value if it is not converted to System.

A rough example.

Body: Strength Training Maintain Muscle Mass + Invest in Annual Skin Care and Shuttle Plan (Because After 40, Both Muscle and Collagen Heal Very Fast)

Mind: Read a book a week + morning journaling (so that mindset is also relevant to the world)

Money: DCA enters portfolio every month + has emergency fund + life insurance protects downside

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The advantage of having a BMM Framework is that it changes the question in my head.

Instead of asking yourself, "No old child, what to do?"

I said, "How can I adapt BMM's system for myself in 30 years?"

The first question scares

The second question makes hands.

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Having children is not a retirement plan, and not having children is not a risk.

The risk is not having a self-care system.

Because finally, the people who have to stay with us 24 hours a day and the last day

Not a child, not a soul mate.

Is ourselves

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Self-care is strategy.

J (Jpybara)

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