If you often find yourself stuck in relationships where your partner isn't fully committed or only gives you just enough attention to keep you unsure, you're not alone. Many people experience this pattern of over-giving while staying too long in situations that don't serve their emotional well-being. It can feel like bad luck, but in reality, it’s about recognizing and shifting how you approach relationships. From personal experience, I realized that accepting inconsistency creates a comfort zone for the other person to avoid making a clear choice. When you are always available and forgive mixed signals, it sends the message that you don't require commitment, which unfortunately encourages them not to commit. Setting healthy boundaries is crucial. This doesn't mean rushing or demanding too much too soon, but rather being clear about your needs and what you will no longer tolerate. For example, if someone frequently cancels plans or fails to communicate consistently, it’s important to call it out and decide how much inconsistency you are willing to accept before it impacts your self-esteem. Attracting a partner who chooses you means valuing yourself enough to wait for someone who shows up fully. It's about creating a relationship dynamic where commitment is mutual and communication is open. Use experiences as lessons rather than setbacks, and don’t be afraid to walk away when a relationship does not match your values. Ultimately, being unlucky in love is a myth. It’s about empowering yourself to recognize patterns of over-giving and learning how to stop tolerating behaviors that drain you. When you do, you'll start attracting relationships that honor and choose you consistently.