what i asked for vs what i got
i went to a new hair stylist for the first time in a long time.
not because i wanted to.
because my two regular stylists were fully booked, and i told myself to stop being so weird about trying new people. like… it’s just hair, right?
i showed her exactly what i wanted.
soft chocolate, caramel balayage. dimension. warmth. movement.
she nodded. said “yeah, we can do that.”
and then she turned my chair away from the mirror.
the ENTIRE appointment.
i didn’t think much of it at first. i figured maybe it was just how she worked. maybe i was overthinking. so i sat there, trusting the process, trying to be normal about it.
but something felt off.
you know that feeling when you can’t see what’s happening but you can feel it ’s not right?
that’s exactly what it felt like?
i kept telling myself, don’t be dramatic. she’s the professional.
it’ll come together at the end. and then she spun me around.
& i didn’t recognize myself.
no dimension.
no chocolate.
just flat, red-brown hair.
blunt. heavy. one color.
nothing like what i asked for.
i just sat there. literally staring at myself, trying to process it in real time.
and the worst part? i didn’t say anything.
not because i liked it.
but because i was in shock.
i kept thinking maybe i was overreacting. maybe it wasn’t that bad. maybe if i just sat with it, it would grow on me. wellllll….. it didn’t. i hate it.
i left, got in my car, and just stared at myself again and ever since then, i haven’t wanted to go anywhere like i’m so embarrassed
because it’s not even just about the hair.
it’s the trust. the TRUSSSTTTT
i already struggle trusting new stylists. and i gave someone a chance anyway. and somehow, this is exactly why i don’t!
so yeah. what i asked for vs what i got.
#hairdecisions #badhaircutstories #trustissues #chopped #haircolorjourney
Trying a new hairstylist can be both exciting and nerve-wracking, especially when you have a specific look in mind like a soft chocolate caramel balayage with dimension and warmth. Unfortunately, not every experience goes as planned. I remember once putting my trust in a stylist who assured me she could deliver exactly what I wanted, but instead, I was left with a flat, red-brown color that lacked any of the depth or movement I hoped for. What added to the frustration was the stylist turning my chair away from the mirror throughout the appointment. This left me feeling helpless and uneasy, unable to see the progress and unsure if she was truly following the plan. For anyone who's ever been in this situation, it can seriously shake your confidence—not just in your hairstylist but in yourself. From my experience, clear communication and visibility during the process are key. I learned that without being able to see your hair as it’s being worked on, it’s tough to provide feedback or catch issues early. After my disappointing appointment, I realized how important it is to advocate for yourself, even if it feels awkward to speak up when something doesn’t look right. Dealing with a bad hair color or cut can impact your mood and self-esteem more than you expect. It’s not merely about vanity; it’s about feeling comfortable and confident. If you find yourself in this situation, remember it’s okay to seek fixes from other professionals, and sometimes, temporary styling tricks can help until your next appointment. Lastly, this kind of experience also teaches valuable lessons about trust. It’s natural to hesitate before trying new stylists, especially after a bad experience. But every stylist is different, and with research, clear communication, and maybe bringing reference photos, you can find someone who understands your vision and respects it. Remember, hair grows back and there’s always a chance to turn your hair journey into a positive story, even after a disappointing start.
