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I don't want to deny myself anymore! / HSP's habit of reducing self-blame

HSP-san also notices the surroundings, but

i'm sensitive to my bad parts.

If you leave it alone

Is it possible to become a deduction method?

"I couldn't do it again... 🥲"

"Why is this impossible..."

Before I knew it, all day long

Are you ruining yourself 🌀

Actually, HSP is

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① "Not done" is easy to see

* read the air

* Compare with around

I remember the mistake

* Keep thinking about the other person's reaction

So it's always in my head

It's easy to say "I have to work harder" 💦

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② Self-denial has become a "habit"

I don't...

If you repeat "I can't do it anyway" every day

The brain thinks it's in "normal mode" 😭

So it's not that I'm not confident

Maybe you blame yourself too much!

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The Habit I Actually Started 🙋🏻‍♀️💖

Write three things you did today.

Praise small things! Praise the obvious!

★ Do not deduct points on a tired day

Create a mechanism to think as little as possible

★ Like when praising a friend

Say words to yourself too

I tried to do it rather than "couldn't do it" ★

See "Why I worked hard"

Self-denial is not a personality.

Knowing that it might be a habit

Kindness is not just for others

You can also turn it towards yourself

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It's hard to change yourself right away!

just by changing the way you treat yourself

Feeling lighter little by little.

First of all, a small "done" today

Just try to find one 👀✨

☆ ★ ☆ ★ ☆ ★

I want to be like this, I want to change!

I want my dreams to come true, I want to grow!

but my delicate self came out

I want to do my best, but I get anxious...

Even those of us at HSP

Summarized what is necessary to continue action

[Note to organize feelings]

It is a free gift 🎁❤️‍🔥

If you're interested, link in bio.

Tap to receive it ★ 彡

▶ @ keni.hsp ◀ ︎

# hsp # hsp temperament # delicate Delicate-san # mind

5/15 Edited to

... Read moreHSPの方は、周囲の出来事や他人の感情にとても敏感なため、自分の欠点やミスにも過剰に気づいてしまいがちです。私もその繊細さゆえに「自分はできていない」と感じることばかり増え、頭のなかで減点方式が常に働いてしまう経験をしてきました。 この自己否定は単なる性格ではなく、習慣として身についてしまった結果なのだと気づいたことが大きな変化のきっかけになりました。脳は繰り返される思考パターンを“通常モード”と認識してしまうため、自分責めを続けるほど自己肯定感が低下します。 そんなとき私は、日々の小さな「できたこと」をノートに書き出す習慣を取り入れました。たとえほんの些細なことでも「褒める」ことを自分に許すと、不思議と気持ちが少しずつ軽くなったのです。また、疲れている日は無理に頑張らず、減点しないよう自分に優しく接することも心掛けました。これにより自分を責めるサイクルを断ち切る助けになりました。 さらに、友達にかけるような温かい言葉を自分にもかけてみることで、「私も大切にされる価値がある」と感じられ、自己否定の声が少しずつ弱まっていきました。できなかったことよりも「やろうとした過程」を評価する視点を持つことも、継続するうえでとても有効です。 私自身、この習慣のおかげで自分責めを減らし、繊細な気持ちのままでも前向きに行動し続けやすくなりました。HSPの方は特に、他人への優しさを自分にも向けることを忘れがちですが、自分への扱い方を少し変えるだけで心の重さは驚くほど軽くなります。 これからも小さな成功体験を積み重ね、自己否定の癖を克服していけるよう一緒に頑張りましょう。自分を認める第一歩は、今日一つ「できたこと」を見つけることから始められます。

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