The true identity of the "perverse" time in the world! The brain of the "independent period" that even children themselves are confused
"I'll do it myself!" "No!"
It takes time to do anything, and the world tends to say "a troubled time to trouble parents" "rebellious period," around 2 to 3 years old.
If you're trying to reach out and say, "Mommy's buttoning it today," when the time is running out, you can have a big explosion 😭
But I'm not doing this to embarrass Mom and Dad.
This time, we will unravel the secret of the brain development step ④ "self-assertion and conflict period (around 2-3 years old)"!
💡 happening in a child s head.
Children's brains at this time are in the midst of "rapid growth" right now!
While a strong will to "do it by yourself!" (independence that has begun to sprout) grows, real skills such as dexterity of hands and sense of time have not yet caught up.
In other words, it is the [independent period] where children themselves are most confused and conflicted by the gap between "their will to do" and "reality that does not go as they want."
🧠 Major Premise: This is during self-control training
As you can see in the illustration, the appearance of this period is not selfishness or rebellion, but the appearance itself of "training to control emotions and actions by oneself."
"I want to do it, but I can't!" "I want you to help me, but I'm frustrated!" By repeating the intense conflict over and over again, the part of the brain that governs self-control is trained hard.
If you think so, don't you think that the figure that is flapping in front of you is "Now, the brain is desperately training...!" ✨
✅ Tips to make everyday involvement a little easier
To watch this training gently, there are just a few tips that I want to keep in mind.
When you have time to spare...
I will go out with you until you feel better and support your brain training.
When I really don't have time...
"I wanted to do it on my own," he said, first empathizing with the conflicting feelings, and then giving a few options, such as "Can I help you until you leave the house?"
You don't have to be swayed by the word "troubled time" in the world.
Just knowing that it is an important step towards independence should change the way you look at tomorrow a little.
Mom and dad who are going out with this training right now, thank you very much every day. Let's watch one step at a time together!
# parenting There is childcare # period There is parenting## 2 years old
私も2歳の子どもを育てているうちに、この自己主張と葛藤の激しい時期を身近に感じました。特に朝の支度やお出かけ前など時間が限られている時、「じぶんでやりたい！」という気持ちと現実の時間とのギャップで大泣きされたことも数知れず…… この時期の子どもの行動は、ただの反抗やわがままではなく、脳の大事なトレーニングだと理解してから、育児がずいぶん楽になりました。例えば、時間に余裕がある朝は一緒にボタンを留める練習をしたり、着替えをさせたりして子どもの「できた！」を積み重ねるようにしています。 急ぐ時は「今日はママが手伝うけど、終わったら次はじぶんでやってみようね」と前向きな声かけや、「あと3回数えたら一緒に靴を履こう」と小さな選択肢を示すことで、子どもも納得しやすいです。子どもが葛藤する気持ちにまず共感し、それからちょっとしたルールや約束を作ることが、お互いのストレス軽減につながりました。 また、この自立期は感情の揺れが大きく、「やりたいけどできない」ジレンマに子ども自身が戸惑っている証拠。大人でも苛立つことがあるように、子どもも一生懸命自分の感情を調整しているのだと知ることで、親としての忍耐力も自然とついてきました。 育児をするうえでのヒントとしては、感情が爆発したときにも「脳が筋トレしているんだよね」と自分に言い聞かせて冷静になるなど、心の余裕を保つことも大切です。この期間は必ず通る道。子どもの自立心を育む大切なプロセスと捉えると、毎日の育児が少し温かく見守れるようになります。 イヤイヤ期を乗り越えるためには、ママやパパの優しい共感と、ほんの少しのルール設定、そして時間に合わせた柔軟な対応が鍵。これらを意識すれば、子どもの成長と自立期の苦労も前向きに捉えられるはずです。これからも一緒にこの「自立トレーニング」を応援していきましょう！
