Even if it does not continue, it is OK to stop! What the parents of "children who can challenge anything" are doing

"Do you really want to do it?" Steals motivation. Parents' subtraction stance to foster children's challenging spirit

When a child says, "I want to dance!" or "I want to swim!"

On the other hand, have you ever had such a brake in your heart?

Do you really want to do it?

"Can you continue without stopping right away?"

"It takes a lot of monthly tuition... 💸"

As a parent, this is a confirmation of love that I want you to continue with responsibility.

However, in fact, this "reminder" can turn into a heavy pressure (threat) for children, saying "I can't fail" or "I can't stop easily."

What kind of stance should parents have in order not to pick the bud of "I want to try it!" Let's think together with the illustration 🌱

⚠️ why confirmation deprives children of motivation

In response to the pure desire to dance,

"Can you continue?" "Don't stop in the middle!" When the child is confirmed in advance, the "fear of failure" will expand at once.

Furthermore, when you actually enter the mode you want to quit,

Why are you so bored?

"There's money at stake!"

You said you wanted to do it yourself, right?

When told that, the child freezes completely. "From now on, let's not say anything other than that we are confident that we can do it perfectly..."

❓ But... Can't you become a "child who gives up quickly" or an "adult with a habit of running away"?

"Why don't you stop rolling around and grow up to be a child without patience?"

What if my job doesn't last long when I grow up?

Some people may feel so anxious.

However, various studies have shown that the result is actually the opposite.

Children who are guaranteed a lot of experiences of "choosing by themselves quitting because it was different choosing again by themselves" in early childhood grow strong confidence (self-determination) that "their life can be controlled by themselves."

That's why, when you go up to elementary school and junior high school students and meet the true passion of "I definitely want to do this! 🔥," even if your parents try to stop you, you will stick on your own and demonstrate tremendous patience.

💡 answer is to install "adults feel light"

The biggest trick to raising a child who is not afraid of challenges is for adults to be prepared with a light feeling in a good sense ✨

🧒 want to dance!

👨 "Like! Let's challenge ❤️"

🧒 "I want to do karate!"

👨 "Yeah yeah! Let's try 😊"

I will go out with the excitement of the child many times so lightly.

Even if you say "I made a lot of mistakes, I want to quit," let's admit the whole experience until then, "It was a nice challenge!"

Rather than "challenging," "increasing one new experience."

Programming, piano, swimming, English conversation... It's okay even if you have various experiences and quit immediately!

Only when there is a parent s soft stance (mental safety base) that it is OK even if it does not continue or it does not go well, children will get used to the challenge, saying, No matter how many times you quit, mom and dad will be on my side. Let s try the next one!

Rather than saying "It's okay to fail" that adults say, "Parents' back that will accept you with a smile even if you fail or quit" is the best nutrition to nurture children's challenging mind 🌱

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When your child says "I want to do it!," what are the first words you say? Let us know in the comments!

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