I don't wait until I feel ready to move my body anymore. Some days healing is quiet and soft. Other days it's loud, sweaty, and on a bike that does not let you quit. Both count. Both are me choosing myself again. Healing after loss isn't always soft, sometimes it's showing up, sweating it o

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My after-gym cozy reset 💙 Gym done, now this. Blanket on, book open, coffee in hand, and nobody needs anything from me for a minute. I used to come home from a workout and jump straight into the next thing on the list. Lately I'm protecting this little reset instead, change into something sof

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Learning to be partnered again after loss 💙 3 things nobody tells you about letting somebody in again…the trusting vs. the letting go - which one is harder for you? #WidowsOfTikTok #LoveAfterLoss #Widowhood #HealingTok #LaNolaMom

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I almost cancelled this appointment three times. Not the money, the guilt. 💅🏾 Widow guilt will tell you a pedicure is frivolous after your life falls apart. But the woman carrying everybody still has to be carried somewhere. I don't come here to be cute. I come here to come back to myself. 🤍

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Peace didn't arrive loud. It arrived in pieces 💙

I thought peace after setting boundaries would feel like a celebration. It didn't, it felt like a quiet Wednesday morning, coffee by the window, and realizing my chest wasn't tight about a conversation I hadn't even had yet. Last week I told you about the boundary…the friendship I'd carried sinc

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He had to learn the whole routine. Durag tied just right, story voices, all of it. 💙 I used to cry in that shower. Now I just breathe. Ten minutes that belong to nobody but me. 🤍 What's YOUR version of ten quiet minutes? The porch? The car? Tell me, I'm collecting ideas. #widowhood #l

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Complicated looks a lot like love 🎳 blended family friday night…mine, his, ours, all in one bowling lane 💙 #blendedfamily #bonusmom #momlife #raisingthem #lanolamom

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She won't remember the style. She'll remember the hands. 💙 I used to rush through hair day. Now it's one of my favorite hours of the week. Mamas - what's the small moment you treasure now? 👇🏾 #BlackGirlHairCare #MomLife #FYP #HealingJourney #LaNolaMom

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I Ended a Friendship I’d Had Since I Was 17.

The hardest boundary I ever set wasn't with a stranger. It was with someone I'd known since I was seventeen. 💙 I was the reliable one. The one who showed up with rent money, a listening ear, no questions asked. All while I was grieving my husband and raising my babies. And it only ever ran one d

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She's not just lifting weights, she's lifting herself out of survival mode 💙 healing isn't always soft. sometimes it's chalk on your hands. #healingjourney #strongwomen #widowhood #crossfit #lanolamom

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Softness is a practice. Not a personality. 💙 #livingsoft #softlifeera #naturalhair #healingjourney #lanolamom

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I stopped explaining myself and my life got so quiet 😌 #boundaries #softlife #healingjourney #widowsoftiktok #lanolamom

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7 things I'd tell the woman in year one of widowhood 💙

Nobody hands you a manual for year one of widowhood, so I'm writing the one I wish I'd had. Year one is survival mode. Here's what I need you to hear: you don't have to be strong for everyone else. Put the cape down. Ask for help BEFORE you break, not after. And you don't have to "move on",

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POV: you're touring wedding venues in New Orleans with the love you never saw coming 🥹 #loveagain #secondforever #widowsoftiktok #weddingplanning #lanolamom

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Before there was a second chance, there was my mom 💙 Tag the person who held you together. #widowtok #griefjourney #momsoftiktok #ittakesavillage #lanolamom

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He folds, I organize. Nobody asked, nobody argued, we just handle home together. 🥰 After loss, I didn't know if I'd get this again. The quiet kind of love. The show-up-and-fold-the-shirts kind. 💙 (We're still gonna talk about the Patriots shirt in a Saints house though 🙄😭) #LoveAgain #S

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POV: you stopped earning your rest 🕊️ What's one thing you're doing this weekend without guilt? 💙 #restisnotareward #momlife #softliving #widowsoftiktok #lanolamom

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Stop waiting for a lighter season to build your foundation 📂 structure is the safety net. Systems that hold + the free Healing Starter Kit - link in bio 💙 #mompreneur #contentsystems #softliving #healingjourney #fyp

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POV: You’re done living in survival mode 💙

These are the 4 quiet rules that took me from chaos to soft living as a mom of 3: batching all my admin to Fridays, protecting my weekends like appointments, building weekly rhythms that actually fit my life, and honoring my boundaries without over-explaining them. Soft living isn't lazy, it's

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Surviving was never the finish line. 💙 Tag your person. The one who needs permission to feel joy again. Follow @lanolamom for the honest kind of healing 🫶🏾 #griefjourney #widowsoftiktok #healingjourney #grieftok #fyp

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