Hidden Differences: The Psychological Problems of the Eldest, Secondary, and Youngest Children

In families with many children, even when they grew up in the same house, raised by the same parents, "birth ranks" often shape their character, behavior patterns, and face remarkably different emotional problems.

1.The Eldest Child (The Firstborn): Bearing Expectations and Leadership

The eldest child often begins his life as "the center of the universe," receiving the full love and attention of his parents until he has a younger brother...Their world will change immediately.

Problems often faced:

● Eldest child syndrome: Feeling perfect, afraid of failure, because you are expected to be a role model for your children.

● Stress of bearing: Adults are often cast in "selfless" or "responsible" roles as young as children, such as "brothers and sisters," so that when they grow up, they often do not reject others.

● Feelings of love: Deep down, there may be envy of the younger, or feelings that their value will diminish if they do not act "perfect" or "dependent."

2. The Middle Child: Absent and Compromise

The middle child often faces dilemma situations, they never get the full amount of attention the eldest child ever gets, and they don't have the right to be ostracized that the youngest child gets.

Problems often faced:

● Middle child syndrome: It feels like "excess" or "forgotten" because parents tend to be busy with the success of their eldest child or have to take care of their unhelpful youngest child.

● Identity Crisis: It's hard to find your own highlight, because if you do well, you tend to repeat the eldest's marks, causing you to express yourself with silence or abuse of attention.

● Feelings of isolation: Often feel like they are not close to anyone in the home, and often resort to focusing on friends or society outside the home rather than family.

3.The Youngest Child: Forever and Wayward Children

The youngest child often grows up amid the more relaxed care of their parents (because the parents have already experienced it) and often gets the compassion of everyone in the home.

Problems often faced:

● Being Overlooked Potential: Often treated as a "forever child," rarely trusted to do important things or make big decisions in the home, resulting in a lack of self-confidence when it comes to adulthood.

● Overly dependent on others: With siblings or parents always managing things, you may lack the skills to solve problems on your own or become bored when you encounter obstacles.

● Wayward syndrome: If too spoiled, there may be problems with accepting the rules in the outside society and expecting others to indulge themselves as at home.

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Although birth rank influences child psychology, the most important thing is the "parenting method of parents."

■ For the eldest child: Should lower expectations and repeat to them that "I don't have to be perfect, parents love."

■ For the middle child: One-on-one (one-on-one time) personal time should be given and appreciated for his unique aesthetic or self.

■ For the youngest child: Should be trained to take responsibility, assign housework, and let him try and error and solve some problems on his own.

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# Psychology of raising children # Baby habits # Middle child # Love, relationships