Honestly I'm embarrassed 🙈
With how much 💩 I used to put up with...and then wonder why I was exhausted all the time🤣
There's a difference between being considerate and being so worried about everyone else that you have nothing left for yourself.
It doesn't look like weakness tho. I would have been so offended if you told me pre 2018 I was a people pleaser
It looks like:
Being the understanding one. The bigger person. The easygoing one. The one who just goes with the flow.
Real sneaky. Until your body starts sending the bill.
Here are 7 signs it's actually people pleasing — and you've been calling it something else:
1. You make excuses for everyone. Their trauma, their schedule, their bad day. You've explained away behavior & blamed yourself for being dramatic.
2. You let things slide and slide until you either blow up or go ice cold. No in between.
3. You KNOW you should be charging more. You feel guilty doing it anyway. Somehow their budget feels more important than your worth.
4. You're always the one fixing it. Reaching out first. Keeping the peace. Even when you didn't break a damn thing.
5. You water down what you actually want to say because their comfort matters more to you than your own honesty.
6. You say you're easygoing but really you just stopped letting yourself want things. Less painful than being disappointed again.
7. You don't even know what you actually want anymore. Your own needs feel like an inconvenience, even to yourself.
I was every single one of these.
And this is exactly what I see when clients first come to me ... smart, capable women who have been leaking their energy, their power, their worth into everyone and everything except themselves. And they're tired. Like bone tired.
They don't come to me just to lose weight or hit an income goal (those things happen). what they really come for is to stop abandoning themselves and finally embody the woman they already know they are.
If any of these stung a little, good. That's awareness. And awareness is where it starts.
Drop a 🔥 if this is you or save this for later when you need the reminder.
#relatable #selfworth #healingjourney #peoplepleasing #manifesting
From my personal experience, realizing that I was a people pleaser was a real turning point in my life. I used to think that always putting others first was just being kind or easygoing, but I didn't see how it was affecting my mental and physical health until I became truly exhausted and emotionally drained. People pleasing often starts subtly, like making excuses for someone's behavior or feeling guilty about asking for what you deserve. One thing that really helped me was setting small but firm boundaries. For example, when I noticed myself apologizing or explaining away others’ bad behavior, I started to pause and ask if I was doing it to keep the peace or because I truly felt responsible. Recognizing that my comfort and honesty mattered just as much as anyone else's was empowering. Another sign I ignored for too long was the frustration of always being the one to maintain relationships—calling first, fixing conflicts, smoothing things over. It felt exhausting and unfair, but I convinced myself that it was just who I was. Learning to expect mutual effort helped me develop healthier relationships. It's important to understand that people pleasing isn't weakness; it’s often a coping mechanism developed over time. Healing from it means embracing your own needs and worth without guilt. Whenever I started prioritizing myself, even in small ways like charging my worth for services or openly expressing my feelings, I felt a weight lift off my shoulders. If any of these signs resonate with you, it’s okay—awareness is the first step. Remember, being considerate doesn’t mean sacrificing your well-being. You deserve to have your voice heard and your needs met. Take it one step at a time, and don't be afraid to seek support when needed. Your energy and happiness are worth protecting.