What if some of the personal growth advice you've been following is actually making you feel MORE disconnected from yourself?
I know. Sounds counterintuitive. 😂
But here's what I've learned:
The tools aren't necessarily the problem.
It's when we turn them into rules.
“I'm not doing enough.”
“I need a better routine.”
“I'm doing this wrong.”
“Maybe I need to research one more thing.”
Suddenly personal growth becomes another fucking job.
Here are 5 things that did that to me:
1. The perfect morning routine
Something that's supposed to ground you becomes 26 steps you have to complete before you're “allowed” to start your day.
I don't teach my clients the perfect routine.
I teach them how to figure out what actually supports them.
And ironically? They often become more consistent because of it.
2. Breathwork, EFT + meditation
I LOVE these tools.
But when I started overthinking whether I was doing them “right,” something that once felt amazing became another thing to optimize.
Sometimes the practice was working perfectly fine.
3. The perfect diet
Keto. Vegan. Carnivore. GLP-1s. Whatever.
The problem isn't necessarily the tool.
It's believing there's one “right” way to have a healthy body.
Your friend might thrive running every day.
You might feel like shit doing it.
Your body gets a vote.
4. The 5 AM routine
Fuck your 5 AM. 😂
If you naturally wake up then? Amazing.
If your body wants 5:30, forcing yourself awake at 5 because some productivity guru said you should isn't automatically going to make you healthier, happier or more successful.
5. Constantly healing
Healing is a huge part of my work.
But you can become so focused on healing yourself that healing becomes your identity.
At some point, you have to live, too.
Because personal development was never supposed to be a full-time job where you're constantly finding the next thing to fix.
The goal isn't to optimize yourself into perfection.
It's to know yourself well enough to make choices that actually support you.
That's why my coaching isn't about putting you in another box.
It's about healing, growing, living—and learning to trust yourself through all of it. 💙
If you're tired of trying to become the “perfect” version of yourself and want to learn how to actually trust yourself, you're in the right place. ✌🏼
In my own experience, I found that constantly chasing the "perfect" personal development plan often led me to feel overwhelmed and disconnected rather than empowered. For example, I used to swear by waking up at 5 AM every day, convinced this was the secret to success. But forcing myself up before my natural rhythm left me drained and less productive. Only when I tuned into how my body actually felt did I realize that waking at 5:30 or 6 AM suited me better, which helped me be more energized throughout the day. Similarly, I obsessed over having a flawless morning routine packed with meditation, journaling, and exercise. While these tools are valuable, turning them into rigid tasks made them feel like obligations rather than sources of calm. I learned to simplify and customize my routines to what genuinely supported my mood and energy on any given day. This flexible approach helped me actually keep consistency instead of burning out. The issue with diets is also something I faced—jumping from keto to vegan to intermittent fasting, trying to find the "right" way based on what influencers recommend. I realized that what worked best was listening to my body’s unique needs, accepting that my nutrition doesn't have to fit one specific mold. This mindset shift reduced my anxiety around food and improved my wellbeing. Lastly, the pressure to constantly "heal" or work on self-improvement became exhausting. There was always a new trauma to unpack or habit to fix, which felt endless. Over time, I understood that growth includes embracing life as it is, not just focusing on fixing yourself. Sometimes, living fully means letting go of the need to be perfect all the time. Overall, these realizations helped me move away from formulaic personal growth hacks toward a more sustainable, compassionate way of being. Instead of rigid rules, I now use my intuition to guide which practices truly nourish my nervous system and mental health. The key is to respect your individual pace and trust yourself as the best expert on your own wellbeing.