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Pain is not your fault.

Where you place blame, determines where you seek resolution.

Relearning painfree access to your body is a difficult but needed process.

Play the long game. ❤️‍🩹

2025/2/10 Edited to

Pain is a complex experience influenced by both physical and psychological factors. Understanding that pain is not solely your fault can be liberating. Retraining your mind is a crucial step in this journey. It involves recognizing the narratives you've built around pain and how those impact your perception of your body. Many find success in various practices such as mindfulness, meditation, and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) to shift their perspectives. It's essential to focus on self-compassion and understanding that seeking resolution is a process. Supporting your mental health through positive affirmations and surrounding yourself with a helpful community can foster healing. Your journey towards a pain-free life may take time, but remember, every small step counts. Embrace the long game and stay committed to nurturing your body and mind.

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