I cut off over half of my friends ❣️

Surround yourself with the love you deserve. It’s time to cut off those who provide negativity in our lives. The guilt, anger, and grief of removing their presence in your day to day is worth your peace.

As a people pleaser things like this can be hard. They may be a great friend but what are they like when their true colors show? How does being around them make you feel? Do you like who you are around them?

The last year I’ve taken a step back to assess the relationships in my life and how they made me feel. Iv made some changes and focused on spending my time with those that build me up as opposed to those that leave me feeling insecure or unsure.

In the time I spent looking at my relationships, I made my self think of those that have been there for me for it all. Who was there on my lowest days? Who is there to pick me up when I need it most? Am I giving my time to the right people? I was letting those that treated me the worst take up the most time in my life.

I wasn’t ever truly happy in some of my relationships and they turned me into a person I didn’t recognize. I was sucked into a world of unnecessary hate and drama due to who I was surrounded by. After simply separating myself from their energy and lives it was amazing how much changed.

I had energy again! My emotional energy was no longer being drained from me by others. I have a say as to who, when, and where I spend my own energy now. I’m happier and my self confidence is slowly growing as compared to when I was around others that talked so negatively on their views of others lives and body’s. One thing I learned the hard way, is that them talking those ways about people in their lives you don’t know that “deserved it” doesn’t mean they will draw the line at you. I was naïve in thinking they cared and wouldn’t do the same about me. I saw my photos getting sent in between group chats and talked my self into thinking it was for different reasons then it really was. I didn’t realize the effect they had on my confidence until I let them go. Are you confident they won’t speak poorly of you behind your back?

Stop letting your self be used and abused by others.

Stop letting the people in your life have a say in how you feel about yourself.

Stop letting your self stray from what’s important to you in life.

And stop giving to those that won’t have the same back.

With all Iv said I may add, I still wish the best for these people. I wish them happy and successful lives and that they find the peace they need. For me though? I’m learning to forgive, share my experiences with others, and keeping my peace.

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