You have spent so long wondering if you are just too much. Too emotional. Too needy. Too sensitive. Too intense. But here is an analogy that might change how you see it. Going to a fast food restaurant and being upset they don't have a filet mignon on the menu is not a you problem. You just w

You have spent so long wondering if you are just too much. Too emotional. Too needy. Too sensitive. Too intense. But here is an analogy that might change how you see it. Going to a fast food restaurant and being upset they don't have a filet mignon on the menu is not a you problem. You just w

slSomething I want you to know about the way I do therapy : I am going to meet you exactly where you are. I am going to validate your experience and make sure you feel genuinely seen. When trust is built AND you are ready, I am also going to help you go deeper than you have probably gone before

You have spent so long wondering if you are just too much. Too emotional. Too needy. Too sensitive. Too intense. But here is an analogy that might change how you see it. Going to a fast food restaurant and being upset they don't have a filet mignon on the menu is not a you problem. You just w

if you've been to therapy before and walked out feeling like you just got a really nice compliment instead of any real clarity, I want you to know that is NOT what therapy is supposed to feel like you deserve more than someone reflecting your own insight back to you and calling it progress. you

we talk a lot about toxic patterns in relationships but not enough about why they keep happening and the answer is almost never about the other person❤️‍🩹 it is about what your nervous system learned to call familiar. the push and pull that feels like passion. the person who needs you to save t

the four horsemen get all the attention but what Gottman found next is what actually changes relationships 🧠 because knowing what is destroying your relationship is only useful if you know what to replace it with. and he found exactly that. a gentle startup instead of criticism so the conversat

most of us were never taught what healthy conflict actually looks like 🗣️❤️‍🩹 we learned to fight from watching the people around us fight. and for a lot of us that meant criticism, contempt, defensiveness and shutting down were just how love worked. so we brought those patterns into our own rel

you are not addicted to them. you are addicted to the possibility of them 🧠 and here is the neuroscience behind why that is so hard to walk away from. your brain releases dopamine when it gets a reward. but it releases significantly more dopamine when that reward is unpredictable. this is calle

you are not addicted to them. you are addicted to the possibility of them 🧠 and here is the neuroscience behind why that is so hard to walk away from. your brain releases dopamine when it gets a reward. but it releases significantly more dopamine when that reward is unpredictable. this is calle

we talk a lot about toxic patterns in relationships but not enough about why they keep happening 🧠 and the answer is almost never about the other person. it is about what your nervous system learned to call familiar. the push and pull that feels like passion. the person who needs you to save them.

your amygdala cannot tell the difference between a real threat and the thought of one 🧠 read that again. the part of your brain responsible for detecting danger responds the exact same way to a scary thought as it does to an actual emergency. which means your body goes into full survival mode over

My take on this trend 🤣 #therapytok #trending

the most important shift in any relationship 🌹 it is not you vs your partner. it is you two vs the problem. the moment you make each other the enemy you stop being a team and start being opponents. and you cannot solve a problem together when you are too busy trying to win against each other. c

you are not too much. you are not overreacting. your window is just narrow 🧠 the window of tolerance is the zone where your nervous system feels regulated and safe. above it is anxiety, panic, rage. below it is shutdown, numbness, freeze. trauma and chronic stress narrow that window over time s

you are not too much. you are not overreacting. your window is just narrow 🧠 the window of tolerance is the zone where your nervous system feels regulated and safe. above it is anxiety, panic, rage. below it is shutdown, numbness, freeze. trauma and chronic stress narrow that window over time s

if you're reading this while your brain is going a million miles a minute…. hi, this is for you 🧠 you've probably tried to think your way out of it and it's probably not working because anxiety isn't a thinking problem,it's a body problem. Your nervous system doesn't care how logical you