Strangers aren't scary. People close to themselves aren't that safe.

This house never taught you to be afraid of strangers.

✨ but remember not to accept things, not walk with him, not to touch himself, and not to hurt us.

Ry learned that the truth is that danger doesn't come from strangers, and that it's not like people are 100% safe.

👉🏻, for example, according to the news that a family or teacher or acquaintance violates or abuses a child.

💕 teaching children to understand the "balanced" world.

More important than scaring him. Paranoid of everything.

✅ a way of teaching that works, it is often not to say, "The person is dangerous, this person is safe," but to teach the child to "listen to your instincts + know the boundaries of your body."

This is what I read. Let's use this line instead. 👇

1. Teach about "the body is ours." Tell your children clearly that

* My body belongs to me

* No one has the right to arrest me if I'm uncomfortable, even an acquaintance, such as a relative or a family.

2. Separate the word "secret" and "surprise." This one is very important.

* Surprise = It will be revealed (e.g. birthday gift)

* Secrets that make me uncomfortable / scared = You have to tell your parents right away, "No adult should let me keep a secret like that."

3. Teach to believe your own feelings. Use simple words such as

* If you feel weird, uncomfortable, back off or use the serious word "stop, I don't like it."

* Don't be considerate of all adults. Many children are taught to "always obey adults," which sometimes becomes vulnerable.

4. Give "refusal rights," such as

* Don't want hugs, don't hug

* Don't want to sit and lap anyone, don't sit and stand next to your son when you refuse, so he knows it's not wrong to protect himself.

5. A few "safe adults" teach their children that if something happens, tell them immediately, such as their parents, the teacher will save them from being alone.

6. Use a language that doesn't make the world too scary. Instead of saying, "People close to you are dangerous," say, "Whoever it is, if it makes me uncomfortable, I have the right to refuse and tell my parents."

This is not "who's dangerous," but "when the situation isn't okay, what to do?"

You won't grow up paranoid, but you're not too naive.

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