Im 20 and a mom…..but,
I miss me. I can’t remember the last time I genuinely felt amazing of myself, whether it’s just completing something small or heading off into a life goal. However that is the problem I’ve lost all motivation for myself. I still dream and I still wanna go dancing however my kiddo comes first.
I’ve came across many others, who tell me I got all the time in the world that I still can make a living out for myself but now I’m basically a full time mom/ fiancé.
Some say my low moments could be a reflection of postpartum (my daughter is 7 months)…..we ended up having to do a c-section so the delivery process was a bit stressful on my end.
Prior to my pregnancy I was diagnosed with bpd and bipolar one. I finally decided to take that truth of I need to help myself Inorder to better myself and so I did. As many know not all medications are safe during pregnancy and so I still haven’t gotten back on them.
Maybe the answer is right in front of me, maybe I really should go to sleep, and actually wake up to a new day and find the passion I use to have. Yet this isn’t my first redo of “dam I’m stuck, and don’t know what I should do now” but this time I’m putting myself out there in hope of finding something that helps me not being so miserable within my self.
I love the time I give to my daughter but I also love the idea of being able to provide too, yes my fiancé has a job but you know how economy can be and living on a check to check isn’t ideal nor relaxing. In other words I want to be able to do something yet still be here for my daughter and on top of all I need schedule.
Any hobbies I can get into?
Is there home made art business others would be interested in?
I will literally take any suggestions of self care, cooking ideas, I mean anythinggggg to make me a better mom, lover and person for myself.
Being a young mom at 20 comes with its unique set of challenges, especially when paired with navigating mental health conditions like bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder (BPD). Many moms experience postpartum struggles, including low motivation and feelings of being stuck, particularly when recovering from a c-section. It’s essential to recognize that motherhood doesn't have to mean losing yourself. Taking time to rediscover your passions and interests—even small hobbies—can significantly improve mental health and foster a sense of purpose. Activities like dancing, as mentioned, or exploring creative outlets such as homemade art can be therapeutic and potentially open doors to small home businesses that balance flexibility with earning potential. Self-care is pivotal in restoring a healthy relationship with yourself. Simple routines such as mindfulness meditation, journaling, or setting aside quiet moments can help manage stress and emotional well-being. Cooking can also be a creative outlet, where trying new recipes or meal prepping not only nourishes the body but also brings a sense of accomplishment. Building a supportive community—whether through online parenting groups, local meetups, or counseling—can lessen feelings of isolation and provide motivation. Remember, managing bipolar disorder during this time can be complicated, especially when medications aren’t an option yet. Regular check-ins with healthcare providers and exploring therapy options like cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) can offer additional support. Ultimately, balancing motherhood, personal dreams, and mental health is a journey. It’s okay to have moments where you feel lost; what matters is the courage to seek help and try new ways to reconnect with yourself. Embracing both the joys and struggles of being a mom at 20 means you’re growing stronger each day, demonstrating love not only toward your child but also toward yourself.
