Making friends as an adult

Okay let’s get vulnerable really quickly:

I’ve been very blessed to find friends no matter the space I’m in. But I have noticed outside of the spaces I’m intentionally in (school, work, church) it is very hard to meet people. I’ve moved and lived in three states in two years alone. Also all of my my close friends live in different states 🌎

It’s also hard when you’re outgrowing some people who you may have grown up with. Trying to find people with similar mindsets and goals can be hard but definitely doable with consistency and time😩

Sometimes I’ll meet people and I think we click and then I realize it just wouldn’t work or maybe they just don’t feel the same way. 🔑

I’ve definitely tried the bumble bff and tried meeting some people through social media. The hardest part is you never know who people truly are. There was one person she was super cool via socials. We tried to meet up and then she went ghost?

I recognize friendships take time and won’t happen immediately but it’s very hard to do when you aren’t doing meeting people on a daily basis lol. I have made a new friend though 🎉 she’s new to the area and I reached out. So there is definitely hope!

I know my experience isn’t unheard of. But I did want to share in hopes of helping someone navigate this too. 💕

What are your thoughts? And where have you found friends?

#letschat #lemon8contest #adultingishard #vulnerablediaries #friends

2024/12/19 Edited to

... Read moreMaking friends as an adult can indeed be a daunting task, but there are various strategies to improve your chances of forging meaningful connections. Start by exploring local events or meetups that align with your interests. Apps like Bumble BFF or Meetup can help facilitate connections with like-minded individuals. Networking events are also great opportunities to meet new people, as they often attract individuals who are eager to connect. Additionally, consider joining clubs or hobby groups that resonate with your passions. Participating in community volunteer work can also be a rewarding way to meet new friends while contributing positively to your environment. Cultivating friendships requires patience and effort; it's important to remain open-minded and adaptable in your approach. Often, friendships develop in unexpected settings, so try to embrace new social situations and take the initiative to reach out. Ultimately, being genuine and approachable will make it easier for others to engage with you. Remember, everyone is navigating this challenge; your vulnerability can pave the way for authentic connections. What are some specific activities or places you’ve explored to meet new friends? Sharing your experiences may inspire others on the same journey.

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Cassie

i have also struggled to find friends as an adult, i honestly have not yet. the friends i have are from school and we just have been friends for that long. i don’t even know where to look for adult friends but i was looking into getting into a crotchet group and hoping to find friends that way

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Kendra Nichelle

This is so relatable and honest. Making friends as an adult can feel like such a challenge, especially when you’re trying to find people who align with your growth and values. It’s great that you’ve stayed open and reached out to someone new that takes courage and effort.

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