The Top 3 Things I Have Learned in My 20’s 🎀
So normally on Lemon8, I post as a home, beauty, and lifestyle creator, but I wanted to get a little bit more personal to show you guys the top three things that I’ve learned in my 20s.
I’ve been through a lot in my life and I’ve gotten to a place where I feel very stable as an adult and I definitely attribute part of it to learning these three important skills:
🎀 - Don’t share everything about yourself online and in person. I’m a huge believer of the evil eye and I feel like every time I share something with someone prematurely it ends up going wrong. You never know if someone is on your side and rooting for you so the best way to protect yourself is to only share when something is done or share with people you trust so so much. This goes for relationships, education, big purchases, all of it.
🎀 - Meet your core hobby groups. Life after graduation can get really boring because you’re not looking forward to something all the time. In school you’re always looking forward to summer break or winter break but in adulthood, you don’t really have much to look forward to unless you create it. That’s why having hobbies that enrich you as a person are so important in your 20s.
🎀 - Learn to provide for yourself before you ever allow anyone to provide for you. I feel like a lot of times in this generation we tend to watch social media and see all of these girls who are saying that their boyfriends and significant others are paying for their lavish lifestyles and that you should be able to find a guy who can do the same for you. Im here to tell you that it can put you in a very vulnerable position and unless you are able to provide for yourself. Additionally, the personal development and self fulfillment that you get from learning to provide from yourself is amazing and as woman we take on a lot of different roles in our life, but taking on a role to take care of yourself is so important too.
Hopefully you like these ones and it helps you throughout your journey. I’ve got a lot more years of my 20s left, but hopefully this helps somebody out there. 💕
- xoxo, Drew 💌
Navigating your 20s can be a transformative period filled with challenges and opportunities. One crucial lesson is to be mindful about what personal information you share both online and offline. Keeping certain aspects of your life private protects you from negative energy or judgment and ensures that you only reveal important milestones to trusted individuals. This approach helps maintain emotional security and builds a foundation of trust in your relationships. Another key to thriving in your 20s is to identify and immerse yourself in core hobby groups that enrich different facets of your life. Whether it's participating in activities that keep you physically active, spark your creativity, or even monetize your skills, these hobby communities provide social support and personal fulfillment. After graduation, when structured schedules and school breaks are no longer part of life, creating these meaningful engagements fosters motivation and combats boredom. Perhaps the most empowering lesson is to learn how to provide for yourself financially before relying on others. Developing financial independence not only safeguards you against vulnerability but also boosts your confidence and self-reliance. In the age of social media, it’s easy to be influenced by portrayals of lavish lifestyles supported by partners, but self-sufficiency remains a vital pillar in building a resilient and authentic life. Taking responsibility for your own well-being, especially as a woman balancing multiple roles, leads to profound personal development and fulfillment. Embracing these three principles—privacy, purposeful hobbies, and financial independence—not only equips you to handle your 20s with greater stability but also sets a strong foundation for future decades. Cultivating these habits early on can lead to a more balanced, confident, and joyful adulthood full of self-expression and security.
![A couple dances in a field at dusk, with text overlay "Things I've Learned During My First Serious Relationship [ as someone with anxious attachment ]". The image has a decorative border and the Lemon8 logo with username @kelsavl.](https://p16-lemon8-sign-sg.tiktokcdn.com/tos-maliva-v-ac5634-us/oYlGgUfBEE6Q2Hy6ZV8JD9NarBqB9itAiAAUIo~tplv-sdweummd6v-shrinkf:640:0:q50.webp?lk3s=66c60501&source=seo_middle_feed_list&x-expires=1812326400&x-signature=jffhywjOyvl2%2BJIq6lIJ2GcmB9Q%3D)
