From the dissatisfaction ranking of housewives with their husbands 1 theme: "Housewife husband dissatisfaction"

It has been more than ten years since I got married. Looking back, the moment when I was dissatisfied with my husband is not once or twice. Of course, there are many parts that I am grateful to my husband. It is a fact that he works seriously and supports his family. Still, in the details of everyday life, "Why don't you understand?"

For example, sharing housework. I work full time and take care of the house, but my husband does not change the feeling that housework is something to help. When I see my husband proudly saying I did housework today just by folding the laundry once on a holiday, I think, Can you really say that it is sharing?

Also, the lack of conversation is one of the big complaints. At the beginning of marriage, I talked a lot about work, hobbies, and even silly jokes, but now the conversation is just "What's for dinner today?" and "The electricity bill has gone up again." I feel that the distance between my heart and heart opens from beginning to end with the minimum necessary information exchange. Even if I cut out the story, my husband responded while playing with my smartphone. If you ask "Are you listening?," you often say "I'm listening properly," but you don't remember the content. At that moment, a sense of loneliness surges, saying, "I wonder if I'm not valued."

Furthermore, differences in attitudes towards child-rearing are also a source of friction. When a child skips homework or makes a mess in the room, the husband immediately scolds with a loud voice. However, from my point of view, it is only anger left to temporary emotions, and only fear is transmitted to the child. I want to get involved while thinking about how to be motivated and what words will resonate, but my husband does not understand the difference.

These small accumulations of everyday life accumulate in my heart as "dissatisfaction with my husband." However, strangely, my feelings for my husband are not "dislike." Rather, that's why I think that I want you to understand and change. If you don't have any expectations for your husband, you won't feel dissatisfied, you'll just give up and live peacefully.

I think that it is realistically difficult to have zero dissatisfaction in married life. The important thing is to convey in a small stage before accumulating dissatisfaction and exploding. Rather than saying "you are bad," express your feelings honestly as "I feel this way." Isn't that the first step to not making a marital relationship worse?

I myself am still in the process of practice, but recently I try to write a "memo of dissatisfaction." I do not show it to my husband as it is. However, if you try to verbalize your feelings, you can ease your frustration and organize it by saying "this is better to tell" or "this is okay to let it flow." And when you actually tell your husband, change it to the form of "please." For example, instead of "Do housework!," "I'm tired tonight, so it would be helpful if you could wash up." Just changing the way you say it feels like your husband's reception will soften.

Dissatisfaction with the husband surely exists in every family. However, the future of the couple will change depending on how you handle that dissatisfaction. I am still exploring, but as long as I want to walk with my husband, I think that dissatisfaction is also an important sign to reconsider the relationship between the two.

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