2026 Book #4: I just finished Spiritual Hygiene by Iyanla Vanzant 🤍
This wasn't a book I simply read. It was a book I sat with...self-reflected with 😔
It challenged me to think about what I am carrying emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.... and whether those things are helping me heal or keeping me stuck. 🤷🏽♀️
A few passages that stayed with me:
"Let go of needing to defend your growth."
"Just because you have healed, does not mean others will feel healed in your presence."
And this one...
"Unforgiveness is a spiritual tether."
That phrase alone made me pause. ⏸️
I've always thought of unforgiveness as something that affects our relationship with another person. This book challenged me to consider how unforgiveness affects our relationship with ourselves. 🤔💭
How it keeps us tied to a moment, a wound, or a version of ourselves that no longer exists.
One of my biggest takeaways from this book is that healing isn't only about what happened to us. It's also about what we continue to carry long after it happened.
The need to explain. The need to prove. The need to control. The need to hold on.
... Read moreReading Spiritual Hygiene by Iyanla Vanzant was a transformative experience that really deepened my understanding of how emotional baggage weighs us down. I learned that unforgiveness isn't just about holding grudges against others — it's a spiritual tether that restricts our relationship with ourselves. This realization urged me to look honestly at the resentments and pains I was carrying, many of which no longer served my peace or growth.
One thing that resonated with me was the idea that healing is an ongoing process. It’s not just about the initial hurt or trauma, but also about the thoughts and emotions we continue to carry long after the event. I noticed in my personal journey that the need to explain or justify my healing to others only kept me bound to past versions of myself. Letting go of these needs felt like stepping into more authentic freedom.
This book encouraged me to practice regular self-reflection and be mindful of what emotional, mental, and spiritual clutter I allowed to remain inside me. For instance, I started journaling about moments where I felt stuck or resistant to change, and soon realized many were tied to feelings of unforgiveness or a desire for control. Slowly, by embracing release and surrender, I felt lighter and more aligned with my higher purpose.
What I truly appreciate about Vanzant’s teaching is the nurturing tone that acknowledges both how hard and necessary spiritual hygiene is. It’s not about perfection but about compassionately cleaning away what no longer serves our soul. If you’re on a healing journey, I highly recommend setting time to sit with this book and let its messages challenge and support you. Healing yourself from the inside out is the truest form of liberation I've encountered.