When your silence is Loud…
In today's fast-paced and noise-filled world, silence is often misunderstood as weakness or passivity. However, there can be profound power in choosing when and how to be silent. The idea of learning to disappear, as mentioned in the insightful quote by RM Rastafarim Ovemen — "LEARN TO DISAPPEAR not because you're weak, but because invisibility is power" — highlights that sometimes stepping back from the spotlight and becoming 'invisible' can protect your energy and promote inner strength. From personal experience, I've found that embracing silence allows for greater self-reflection and clarity. Rather than reacting impulsively or seeking validation, stepping into quietness creates space to observe situations more objectively. This intentional invisibility isn't about avoidance but about preserving your mental and emotional well-being. Moreover, silence can communicate more effectively than words. When your silence is loud, it often signals confidence and a refusal to engage in unnecessary conflicts. It commands respect because it shows you do not feel pressured to fill every moment with noise. It's a strategic way of protecting your boundaries. Practicing this can be challenging at first, especially in social or professional environments that value constant communication and visibility. However, over time, embracing silence as a form of power allows you to recharge, focus on what truly matters, and prevent burnout. It’s a reminder that sometimes the most influential voices aren’t the loudest. In summary, silence and invisibility, when consciously chosen, are not signs of weakness. They are powerful strategies for resilience and self-preservation that anyone can apply to improve their personal and professional life.
Yes! I did this with some distant relatives and old "friends". We moved out of State and even 1000+ miles away, they were still wagging their tongues. I cut all of them off, blocked them on all my social media accounts, got a new phone number and when they came looking to find me on other social media platforms, I deleted the request and blocked their messages. When my husband became disabled, and forced to resign, 30 days later we list our insurance. He was so bad that could not cognitively function much. I took the savings and paid for doctors visits, medical equipment and bills. But the money ran out. We lost everything we had including the car. All we had was a bag of clothes for each of us and a few pictures. For almost 2 years we were homeless living off his small retirement check that barely covered our room rent and food. Not one of them called, texted or sent messages asking how we were. The ones that we bought groceries for, sent money to when they were down, said a word or anything. But they tagged their tongues talking about things they know nothing about. So, when I was done, I was good and done. Some think I am a bad person for that, but I don't think so. My peace is worth it. There are some bridges that you not only need to burn, but some of them, you need to blow up and watch it burn.