DATING DEAL BREAKERS (christian edition)

HE DOESN’T SUBMIT TO CHRIST ❌

ask yourself if he is actively pursuing a relationship with the Lord. is he obedient to the Lord when He asks him to do something? or does he believe that his own way is right and there is no need to listen to God?

HE DOESN'T GO TO CHURCH ❌

be wary of a man who thinks church is just not that important. christianity cannot be practiced alone - it's practiced within the safety of community, which will help you to grow spiritually.

HE HAS MAJOR CHARACTER FLAWS ❌

a bad character runs the risk of destroying your relationship or your marriage. carefully observe if he is prideful or unforgiving

HE PUSHES YOUR BOUNDARIES ❌

if he is pushing you to compromise sexually, it's a red flag! It's clear that honoring God with his body and his heart are not his top priority. And being led to the bedroom will only lead to hurt and confusion.

HE IS IMPATIENT ❌

patience is a fruit of the spirit and should be practiced by all believers, if he is impatient with you and others that means your relationship will face a lot of challenges.

HE DOESN'T DEFINE THE RELATIONSHIP ❌

as a christian couple you should be dating with purpose. no matter why he is not progressing the relationship, make sure you seek the Lord and then discuss it with him

just some things to look out for & consider !! ladies, never SETTLE. do not date “potential” !!

#dating #christiandating #datingtips #datingadvice #datingforwomen

2023/11/17 Edited to

... Read moreHey ladies! After sharing my personal red flags, I wanted to dive deeper into what truly makes a Christian relationship flourish. It's not just about avoiding the wrong person; it's about actively seeking and building with the right one. What do 'christian couple goals' really look like? For me, a key 'christian relationship value' is a shared, active devotion to God. It’s a beautiful thing to have a partner who genuinely strives to 'submit to Jesus' in all areas of his life. This means he's not just checking a box, but actively seeking God's will and growing spiritually. I've found that when both partners are committed to their walk with the Lord, and 'go to church' to be part of a supportive community, it creates an incredibly strong foundation. We encourage each other, pray together, and keep God truly 'in the center of your relationship.' It’s like having a built-in spiritual accountability partner, which is so comforting and strengthening for 'healthy christian dating.' Beyond just avoiding 'major character flaws,' I've learned to appreciate a man who is humble and teachable. No one is perfect, but a willingness to grow, to admit mistakes, and to seek forgiveness is huge. Patience, as the article mentioned, is a fruit of the Spirit, and it's something we all need to cultivate. I've seen firsthand how an 'impatient' spirit can create unnecessary conflict and stress. Instead, I look for someone who shows grace and understanding, both towards me and others. It makes a relationship so much more peaceful and joyful, helping both partners achieve 'christian relationship goals.' Another crucial aspect for 'healthy christian dating' is clear communication and respect for boundaries. It's so empowering to have a partner who values your comfort and spiritual well-being, rather than someone who 'pushes your boundaries' sexually or emotionally. A man who truly treasures you will honor your desire to honor God with your body and heart. And when it comes to a partner who 'doesn't define the relationship,' purpose-driven dating is absolutely essential. We're not just 'hanging out'; we're discerning God's will for our future together. This involves honest conversations about intentions, future plans, and praying through decisions. It might feel a bit formal, but it truly sets a solid path and avoids a lot of heartache. On a practical note, integrating faith into daily life is wonderful. 'Bible date ideas' can be simple – reading a devotional together, discussing a sermon, or even serving others. It doesn't have to be complicated to 'always put God in the center of your relationship.' Just recently, my partner and I started a tradition of praying for each other's day every morning, and it's been such a blessing. It’s these small, consistent acts that build a truly 'godly partner' connection. Ultimately, we're aiming for a partnership that reflects Christ, where we uplift and sanctify each other, growing closer to God as a 'couple goals christian' unit. This advice is for anyone seeking to build a truly God-honoring relationship!

30 comments

Lexi Miller's images
Lexi Miller

Thank you!

See more comments

Related posts

Dating Advice I Wish I Knew Sooner
Things Nobody Talks About in Relationships.. But Should Relationships aren't perfect, and that's okay. There's no rule that says you'll always feel like you're in a movie or constantly on cloud nine The truth is, sometimes things will feel normal in their simplicity. But t
irianna

irianna

3420 likes

A person's legs in ripped jeans and white socks rest on a car dashboard, with text overlay "Red flags THAT AREN'T Red flags" and two red flag icons. The image introduces a discussion about common misconceptions of red flags in relationships.
A person's legs and hands are shown, with text "They've never been in a relationship." The image explains this isn't a red flag, but shaming someone for more experience is the actual red flag.
An open book lies on green grass, with text "They're not on social media." The image explains this isn't a red flag, but controlling social media use or making someone feel bad about it is the actual red flag.
🚩 Red flags that aren’t RedFlags🚩
Each person should define their own red flags based on what feels right for them, regardless of outside opinions. The term “red flag” should be reserved for warning signs of potentially disrespectful or abusive behavior, not just personal preferences. Understanding what truly constitutes a red f
Milaidy🫧🌺🍕

Milaidy🫧🌺🍕

2093 likes

ASK THESE BEFORE YOU GET SERIOUS...🤍🤍🦋🦋
Take some time to get to date someone before you commit!! If you’re looking for a serious relationship that will LAST, it’s important to vet your partner first!! DON’T SETTLE! It’s okay to date casually before fully committing to someone. There are definitely quite a few things you should know ab
Sarah Jolie 🌸

Sarah Jolie 🌸

675 likes

A couple kissing, with the title 'This Is How You KNOW He's the Real Deal Not Just Another Distraction' overlaid.
A smiling couple embracing, with text overlay '#1 Peace feels louder than passion. You feel seen, heard, and safe.'
A family of three (a couple and a child) sitting together, with text overlay '#2 He does what he says — without reminders. Just consistency.'
This Is How You KNOW He’s the Real Deal 🫶🏾😮‍💨
When a man is really for you, you don’t have to perform, beg, or prove. You just have to be. And sis… you deserve a love that doesn’t come with anxiety as the side dish. Drop a 😮‍💨 if this hit you in some type of way Note: Photos are for aesthetic purposes only. The people pictured are not
Soft Cut Society

Soft Cut Society

1682 likes

Two people in denim jeans and sneakers hold hands on an asphalt surface, with text overlay "girl talk. questions to ask during the dating stage..." and the user's Lemon8 handle.
A black background displays a list of dating questions for a guy, including inquiries about relationship goals, deal breakers, first impressions, cheating, family, religion, and hobbies, attributed to Marilyn Rose.
This image continues the list of dating questions on a black background, covering dream jobs, love languages, best gifts, childhood memories, stress handling, communication style, desire for kids, introversion/extroversion, and holding grudges, by Marilyn Rose.
💌 questions to ask during the dating stage
I get the feeling of when you like a guy so much, you overlook certain questions that you should ask, and red flags you should be watching out for… been there, done that 😭😭 I think that building trust and a solid foundation with someone who you are dating and want to be your official partner/boy
YT: MARILYN ROSE 🤎

YT: MARILYN ROSE 🤎

618 likes

Travis Kelce’s Dating Rule… ICK or No?
So apparently people are once again talking about Travis Kelce’s “dating rule.” You’ve probably seen it making the rounds… it’s from like 9 years ago, way before the whole Taylor Swift thing, but every few months the internet digs it back up like a bad reality TV subplot. Basically, in this old
tasiaa

tasiaa

768 likes

30-Day Anxiety Dating Challenge✨
Don’t forget to swipe ➡️ Week 1: Self-Awareness & Preparation Day 1: Write down what makes you anxious about dating Day 2: List your strengths and qualities that make you a great partner Day 3: Practice mindfulness for 10 minutes Day 4: Identify your deal-breakers in relationships D
Anxiety Diary

Anxiety Diary

118 likes

Relationship Non-Negotiable’s & Deal Breakers @ 28
#relationshipadvice #datingadvice101 #lifelessons #marriagegoals
Theonlyzip

Theonlyzip

3561 likes

The first image introduces the '30-Day Anxiety Dating Challenge' with the goal of 'Building Confidence and Connection Week By Week'. It features red text over a background of green trees and blue sky, with a 'Swipe' indicator and a 'Dear Diary' logo.
The second image outlines 'Week 1: Self-Awareness & Preparation' of the dating challenge. It lists daily tasks from Day 1 to Day 7, including writing anxieties, listing strengths, practicing mindfulness, and journaling, against a dark background with a 'Dear Diary' logo.
The third image details 'Week 2: Online Dating & Social Interaction' of the challenge. It presents daily tasks from Day 8 to Day 14, such as updating dating profiles, messaging interests, and setting app boundaries, on a dark background with a 'Dear Diary' logo.
30-Day Anxiety Dating Challenge✨
Week 1: Self-Awareness & Preparation Day 1: Write down what makes you anxious about dating Day 2: List your strengths and qualities that ca F you a great partner Day 3: Practice mindfulness for 10 minutes Day 4: Identify your deal-breakers in relationships Day 5: Write a short positive a
Anxiety Diary

Anxiety Diary

116 likes

how well do you know yourself in a relationship?💝💝
Do you know yourself as a partner?! I feel like it’s so common to talk about finding the right partner for you. To have nonnegotiables and never settle for less. BUT - do you know yourself enough to find what you need in a relationship? Do you know what you want? Do you know who YOU are in a rel
Sarah Jolie 🌸

Sarah Jolie 🌸

180 likes

A person's hands are on a car steering wheel and gear shift, with keys hanging from the ignition. The image has a text overlay that reads "20 QUESTIONS TO ASK before making things official" with a question mark icon.
Two people are holding hands while walking on a sidewalk, viewed from above. The image displays questions 1-10 from the article, including "what are your long-term life goals?" and "what are your expectations for sexual intimacy?".
A person holds a glass with ice on a table in a dimly lit setting, with beer bottles nearby. The image features questions 11-20 from the article, such as "thoughts on living together before marriage?" and "thoughts on maintaining friendships with the opposite sex?".
ask these questions before making things official
if you’re making things official in a relationship, that likely means you can see some sort of a future with that person. if that’s the case, it's important to check that your vision of the future aligns with the person you are dating. asking these questions early on, ensures that the relations
staci york 💛🍋

staci york 💛🍋

3648 likes

Dating My Husband Taught Me This About White Men
Let me preface this by saying that it’s not all about race. This is just my personal experience with dating my husband. Disclaimer: **Not all white men and not all black women are like this** ✨My husband wasn’t wasting his time. I’ve seen and heard a lot of white guys say “when they see or k
Theadra Hoskins

Theadra Hoskins

1333 likes

Ice Breakers...
Some unique conversation starters off the beaten path...
❌️YASUKE❌️

❌️YASUKE❌️

291 likes

A woman with long dark hair looks at the camera in a dimly lit restaurant, with a blurred man in the background. Text overlay reads "DON'T DO THESE DATING MISTAKES PT.2 YES AGAIN!" and includes the Lemon8 logo with username @ebonyblac_.
White background with black text advising against forgetting your standards in dating, emphasizing that standards exist for a reason. The Lemon8 logo and @highstandardsprincess are visible at the bottom.
White background with black text advising to pay attention to a partner's relationship history, stating that patterns exist and reveal future behavior. The Lemon8 logo and @highstandardsprincess are visible at the bottom.
Dating mistakes WOMEN keep making⚡️
Part 2! Be sure to go over part one for more clarity! Have a clear mind when dating and dealing with men! Put yourself FIRST! Because if the shoe was on the other , MEN WOULD DEFINITELY PUT THEMSELVES FIRST! #adviceforwomen #blackgirlslemon8 #datingadvice101 #datingadviceforwomen #mentalhe
Ebony Blac

Ebony Blac

312 likes

are any of these deal breakers for yall??👀 #fyp #girltalk #datingadvice #girltips
Jada

Jada

75 likes

What deal-breakers? ❌
Learning to set boundaries in relationships wasn’t easy for me. I used to stay silent when I felt controlled or disrespected, thinking it was “normal” or that I had to tolerate it. Over time, I realized my feelings, safety, and comfort matter. I won’t tolerate manipulation, verbal or physical ab
Milaidy🫧🌺🍕

Milaidy🫧🌺🍕

210 likes

love heated rivalry? ❤️‍🔥 save for books to read next! ⬇️
I still need to read heated rivalry AND finish episode 3 (I know!!) BUTTT if you’re loving the yearning, the rivalry, & the heat THESE hockey romances are for you! 🤭 • if you’re here for the YEARNING… 💜 POWERLESS 💜 childhood friends to lovers 🩵 FAKE SKATING 🩵 YA childhood friends to enemies to
abitbooked

abitbooked

6 likes

Questions to Ask BEFORE Dating Anyone‼️
I get asked frequently what I look for in a man. I have a list of requirements and if you don’t match majority of everything on that list I won’t entertain you. I know it sounds mean and picky but I’m entitled to my own opinion. Due to past experiences I take down notes and pick out the good trai
Dark Chocolate Queen 🤎✨

Dark Chocolate Queen 🤎✨

266 likes

How do you deal with comedones?🥹
#kbeauty #koreanskincare #skincare #acne #closedcomedones
diego 🌙

diego 🌙

1183 likes

Polygamy
“He Wants Polygamy… But She's Not With That | 1 Man, 3 Women? Nah.” In this honest and funny moment, a girl breaks down exactly why she’s not interested in a man who’s offering “polygamy.” When he says he wants two other women plus her, she shuts it down real quick. This clip dives into the
🅱🅴👽🅻🅴🅶🅴🅽🅳🅰🆁🆈

🅱🅴👽🅻🅴🅶🅴🅽🅳🅰🆁🆈

3 likes

My [Non-Negotiables] in a Relationship ‼️
Let’s be honest: sometimes, there’s a fine line between deal-breakers and being too picky. We all want to have standards, but we don’t want to feel like we’re on a wild goose chase. Still, there are some non-negotiables you shouldn’t compromise on if you want a solid relationship. There’s no mid
Milaidy🫧🌺🍕

Milaidy🫧🌺🍕

129 likes

A top-down view of a person's legs and feet wearing yellow and blue sneakers, with text overlay 'DISCOVER THE 777 Dating Rule'. A white heart outline and an arrow are also visible.
A light brown background with text detailing '7 MUST-HAVE QUALITIES' for a partner, including kindness, humor, and intelligence. It also shows 'FOLLOW' and 'SAVE' buttons.
A light brown background with text detailing '7 DEAL BREAKERS' for a partner, such as dishonesty or lack of ambition. It also shows 'FOLLOW' and 'SAVE' buttons.
The 777 Dating Rule
Why the 777 rule? It’s about taking control, setting clear expectations, and not settling for less than you deserve. By focusing on what really matters, you increase your chances of finding someone truly compatible. 💑 🌟 So, sis, before you roll the dice again, remember these tips to make your ne
Lizzy Reaux

Lizzy Reaux

30 likes

Cycle breakers
#cyclebreakers #boundaries #firstgen #guilt
BIBIANA | THERAPIST

BIBIANA | THERAPIST

4 likes

What are YOUR deal breakers in dating?
#dog #pets #artist #dogs #dating
teemchase

teemchase

2 likes

My financial deal breakers
These are my monthly money things that I must do that make sense to me. I like to remind myself that I am in control of my finances and you can do the same thing! Organizing your finances and creating deal breakers for yourself to hold you accountable! What are some of your budget non negot
JaliyahKreation

JaliyahKreation

50 likes

✨“Emotional Trauma Bible for Cycle Breakers”
📘 Intro For anyone healing family wounds—especially cycle-breakers—this 4.7⭐ bestseller helps decode inherited trauma. A must-read for generational healing. 🧠 Key Takeaways for Cycle Breakers Here are my notes, tailored for anyone breaking toxic patterns👇 1️⃣ Inherited pain is real — You mig
EllaReadsThings

EllaReadsThings

3 likes

A hand holds the book 'Twisted Lies' by Ana Huang, featuring a light green cover with butterflies and white beads. The cover text highlights it as 'Twisted Book Four' and mentions 'Soft girl, scary man.'
The back cover of 'Twisted Lies' by Ana Huang, detailing the plot with characters Christian Harper and Stella Alonso. It includes a quote, publisher 'Bloombooks,' ISBN, and images of other books in the 'Twisted' series.
An open page from the book 'Twisted Lies' displaying content warnings. The text states the story contains a morally gray alpha hero, explicit sexual content, profanity, graphic violence, and sensitive topics.
Fake dating + “I’ll protect you” + morally grey
Soft girl x CEO who would commit a felony for her Yes, my standards are now unrealistic. Thank you for asking 💋 Stella: Looks sweet. Dresses cute. Drinks iced coffee and minds her business. Also has trauma, bills, and zero time for mediocre men. Christian: Her landlord. Has the funds, th
Patty🌷

Patty🌷

9 likes

Deep Questions to Ask on a Date
Dating Advice For Men 3 Questions That Reveal Values on Dates Stop wasting time on surface-level conversations. We share 3 questions that reveal values faster than months of small talk. These deep questions to ask on dates help men identify compatibility early and avoid investing time in
Legacy Of A Gentleman

Legacy Of A Gentleman

1 like

Cycle breakers
#breaktheego #latina #therapist #cyclebreaker
BIBIANA | THERAPIST

BIBIANA | THERAPIST

8 likes

A black and white image features three people, with a man in the foreground and two others in the background. A red 'X' is over one person, and a yellow zigzag line is near another. The text "DEAL BREAKERS?" is overlaid, relating to dating advice.
HELP 🚩 Dating Deal Breakers?
Hey Y’all. I have a serious question! What are some deal breakers while dating ❓ Hear me out, I been happily single 🥰 for quite some time now. I’ll date here & there but I noticed I get turned off easily. It’s bad, one red flag & I’ll cut you off. Do I give up too easy? Hel
juicyjackson

juicyjackson

3 likes

questions to ask your partner before moving in! 🏠❤️
Moving in together with your partner is a huge commitment and a big step in your relationship! It may even be nerve wracking considering to take your relationship to the next level by moving in together. Here are some top questions you can discuss with your partner before making the big decision!
Cleo Natalie

Cleo Natalie

49 likes

A hand holds a stack of six books, with the bottom book featuring a red cover and the title "NO SOUL CAN ENTER WITHOUT AN INVITATION." The image includes the text "He's a 10 but..."
The book cover for "Wings of Starlight" by Allison Saft, depicting a fairy-like woman with wings. The text overlay reads, "there's no way you end up together."
The book cover for "Immortal Dark" by Tigest Girma, showing a dark hand holding a golden, gothic building. The text overlay states, "he kidnapped your sister."
He’s a 10 but… my faves edition
All of these are either 4 or 5 stars on my shelf and I love them dearly! Wings of Starlight is based on the Tinkerbelle movie, Secret of the Wings. We follow a young Princess Clarion weeks before her coronation meditating on her future roll in Pixie Hollow, when reports of monsters crossing ove
Trinity | 🎮📖🐾🩵

Trinity | 🎮📖🐾🩵

234 likes

NBA 2K26 CAP BREAKERS EXPLAINED
2K26 Cap Breakers Explained #2k26 #nba2k26 #nba2k #basketball #gaming
KhiTV

KhiTV

20 likes

🚨 I honestly could’ve saved myself so much time, energy, and heartbreak while “dating” if I knew this. 😮‍💨 Be intentional and Stop listening to what a man says and start watching what he does. Consistency > conversation Character > charm Fruit > words Pay attention to: • Does he follow
Kheiston Boone

Kheiston Boone

9 likes

5 signs you’re dating a walking red flag
#toxicrelationship #mentalhealthmatters
WhyYouFeelLikeCrap

WhyYouFeelLikeCrap

838 likes

A purple-themed title card reads "BLOODLINE BREAKER: YOU WERE BORN TO HEAL THIS ZODIAC EDITION." The background features faint astrological symbols and four dollar bills in the corners. The bottom includes "Lemon8" and "@techiyatarot" branding.
A text-based slide titled "WHO THIS IS FOR..." lists characteristics of individuals meant to heal their lineage, such as feeling like the black sheep or carrying pain that doesn't feel like theirs. "Lemon8" and "@techiyatarot" branding is at the bottom.
A text-based slide titled "BEFORE YOU READ..." explains that messages may resonate beyond one's sun sign, emphasizing interconnectedness and the importance of trusting one's soul. "Lemon8" and "@techiyatarot" branding is at the bottom.
Bloodline Breakers, this for you…
If you don’t see your zodiac sign, then I ran out of room to include your sign in this post. Please follow my TikTik @ TechiyaTarot, for the full post. 💜💜 Generational Curse Breakers, let’s do what we came here to do! 🥹💜✨
Techiya’s Tarot of Rebirth

Techiya’s Tarot of Rebirth

178 likes

Basketball Ankle breakers
B_five

B_five

3 likes

MY DEAL BREAKERS @The Love List #dating #love #single
Alexa Curtis

Alexa Curtis

1 like

Okay ladies and gents 👀 Where should a man absolutely NOT take a woman on a first date? 🌹 Drop your deal-breakers below! @The Meet Market Podcast #DatingFails #RelationshipAdvice #FirstDate #Single #Dating
Cactus Crumpet

Cactus Crumpet

0 likes

Generational curse breakers ✨
Exodus 20:5 "You shall not bow down to them or serve them, for I the Lord your God am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me". IT RAN IN MY FAMILY UNTIL IT RAN INTO ME !! #iamcompletelyandtotallyyoursf
CHRIST ACTIVIST 🤍

CHRIST ACTIVIST 🤍

9 likes

A hand holds a dark red Black Opium perfume bottle and a smaller pink Kay Ali bottle. Overlay text discusses "PERSONALITY & EMOTIONAL COMPATIBILITY" and "DATING ADVICE," emphasizing these as key aspects for a healthy relationship.
A hand holds a dark red Black Opium perfume bottle. Overlay text highlights crucial dating advice points: "CONFLICT RESOLUTION STYLE," "COMMUNICATION STYLE," and "EMOTIONAL AVAILABILITY" for a healthy relationship.
A hand holds a light pink Kay Ali Yum Boujee Marshmallow perfume bottle. Overlay text asks "? DEAL BREAKERS?" and defines "Non-Negotiables" like smoking or infidelity, as essential for dating.
Things To Know Before Dating part 2
What’s been your biggest dating/relationship struggle? ✨ Understanding these aspects helps build a foundation for a healthy relationship & avoids surprises later. ✨ These 3 things need to be taught & majority of the times weren’t. Teach yourself, your kids especially , friends &
KAREN💄POSTS BEAUTY

KAREN💄POSTS BEAUTY

33 likes

Pop the Balloon Cosplay edition
#starfire #starfirecosplay #cosplay #poptheballoon #poptheballoonorfindlove
Nintenbro

Nintenbro

18 likes

See more