10 years + people are still more worried than I am
The funny thing is…
I’m actually the one who has been wondering why everyone else is so concerned. 😂
Ever since my divorce, people have asked:
“Have you found a boyfriend?”
And when I say no, somehow there always seems to be an explanation for why I should.
“It’s the next step.”
“It’s natural.”
“It’s supposed to happen.”
“Don’t you feel bored?”
“It’s better to have a companion.”
“Someone can help or chip in.”
“Why not?”
“It’s been so long.”
“The kids are young.”
“The kids are older now.”
So many perspectives....
And honestly, I’ve always found it a little amusing because somewhere inside me, there was this very simple question:
But why should I?
Not because I don’t believe in love.
Not because I’m against relationships.
I just don’t feel the absence of one.
I don't feel empty waiting for someone to fill a space in my life.
And I think that’s what took me a while to understand.
The more people told me what I was supposed to want, the clearer I became about what I actually wanted And what I don't....
What I need and what I don't??? Clarity is here for me.
Maybe that’s one of the gifts of walking your own journey.
You start hearing your own truth underneath everyone else’s expectations.
So yes… nearly a decade later, Cupid can keep shooting. 😂
I’m still here, living, loving, laughing, growing and finding plenty of things to keep me joyful.
Have you ever been told what you’re supposed to want, only to realise… you don’t actually want it?
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Navigating life as a single person for over ten years can be as rewarding as it is misunderstood. Many people face constant questions and assumptions about their relationship status, often feeling pressured to conform to societal norms about love and companionship. From my own experience, I found that the absence of a relationship does not equate to emptiness or loneliness. Instead, it became clear that living authentically and honoring my own needs brought me a unique sense of fulfillment. It's common for society to push narratives that everyone should be in a relationship to feel complete, but this pressure can sometimes overshadow our individual truths. I realized that what others consider as "the next step" or "natural" isn’t necessarily what fits my journey. Instead of chasing idealized notions of love, I focused on personal growth, cultivating joy from passions, friendships, and family bonds. One memorable moment stands out when friends would say, "Why aren't you dating? You should find someone," and my reply was simple: "I don't feel I need to." This clarity grew over time, revealing that well-being and happiness stem from self-awareness and self-love, not from societal expectations. For single parents, the questions can be even more pressing, with remarks about the kids' ages and what’s "best" for the family. However, embracing singlehood as a valid lifestyle makes it possible to raise children surrounded by love and strength, not just a partnership. This mindset change helped me remove the stigma and stereotypes around being single for a long period after a separation. In summary, the arrows of Cupid might keep flying, but they don’t determine our happiness or worth. Instead, finding contentment through clarity and listening to your inner voice is the real gift of walking your own path. If you ever feel pressured to want something just because everyone says you should, remember it's okay to ask yourself, "But why should I?" Your journey, your rules.
asking when I'm going to get remarried bla bla bla..I mean if I'm good alone let it be..sometimes lonely and look at my children I'm happy though..May you enjoy in whatever you do 🥰