From my personal experience, breaking free from colonial standards and societal expectations is a crucial step toward genuine self-love. For many of us, especially in Asian communities, there is an ingrained tendency to judge our features and identity based on Western ideals. I used to struggle with similar feelings—comparing my appearance to unrealistic standards and unintentionally adopting a mindset that devalues my natural traits. One key realization was understanding that this self-criticism often stems from a colonial psychosis—a deep-rooted influence that makes us see ourselves and others through a distorted lens. When Asians mock each other over features like eye shape or skin tone, it’s sometimes a reflection of internalized oppression rather than true self-reflection. Recognizing this helped me start to untangle my own biases and appreciate the unique beauty within me and my community. A practical approach that helped was intentionally shifting focus away from external validation. Instead of looking outside for approval, I began to honor my cultural identity and personal history. Engaging with movements like #decolonizeyourmind and participating in discussions on platforms like #greenscreen inspired me to rethink what standards I was upholding. It’s important to remember that self-love is a journey. It requires patience and continuous effort to dismantle the lingering impact of colonial ideals. Surrounding yourself with supportive voices and educating yourself on the origins of these standards can empower you to see the humanity and dignity in every individual, starting with yourself. True freedom comes when you no longer view your face or identity through someone else’s imposed lens but celebrate your authentic self fully.