Needing advice- girl talk ✨🤍
So when I was with my ex, he didn’t like how I would let my mom have a say in any situation happening in my life. We were making a life-changing decision together, and I refused to tell my mom until the last minute, which broke her. Which now I realize that was a mistake on my part, I was waiting so long to tell her because I didn’t want to get yelled at. She wanted me to delay moving out for a few days so she would have a day to help me. He didn’t like that. I had chosen this day months ago to move out, and he expected to move in that day. We broke up because I gave my mom a choice. Is that normal?
And we talked the other day, and he said, "you won’t be able to find a significant other because they’re going to expect you to put them first. But you don’t; you put your mom first, so no, you won’t ever find a significant other that’ll be okay with that.” Like, what? Is that like a normal thing that people expect?
I’m not going to give y’all all the details from the entire 6-year relationship because that’s a lot, but I bet you can guess. I’ve gotten a lot of comments from people close to me about the situation, and I think I just wanted advice from outside sources on whether the behavior I display is negative and unjustified.
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