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The child is not carrying... but is learning that the world is safe. 🤍

"Hold the baby often. The baby will be carried."

It's a sentence that Ma Mi believes...

Many parents have heard

Including Ma Mi

Admit that I was worried before.

Every time Phoebus sings,

Ma Mie hurried to carry

Every time you reach out,

Ma Mie hurried to receive

But deep in my heart, I can't help thinking

"Are we making the baby carry?"

Until the day that he took Phoebus to see the doctor by appointment

That day...

What Ma Mie is most impressed with.

It's not a test.

But a short conversation between a doctor and his parents.

The doctor said...

All the time taking care of the child, the doctor found a lot of beliefs about raising the child.

Many stories have been passed down for generations.

Many things, everyone said to each other with good intentions.

And the doctor said a sentence that Ma Mi remembers until today.

"What is faith, but does not hurt children, can be passed."

Because we don't have to overcome everything.

But the doctor stopped a little and said,

"But what is the belief and may hurt the child... the doctor will not."

That sentence silenced Ma Mi.

Because it's true

Old people...

Didn't raise the wrong child

Everyone is raising children with love.

And use the best knowledge available in that era.

But today...

We're lucky to have more research.

There's more information.

More medical knowledge

Once we know what's safer,

We should choose that for you.

One of the beliefs the doctor mentioned

Is the story

"The kid's stuck."

The doctor smiled and said that

"Children of this age do not have the word to carry."

The short answer is

Makes Ma Mie go home to find out more

The more you read...

Even more understanding that

The baby doesn't cry for wayward.

Not crying to train parents to carry

Crying...

Is the only language he has.

He cries when hungry.

When tired

When sick

When scared.

Or just want someone to hug.

For little kids.

The arms of father and mother.

Not indulgence.

But it's the safest place in the world.

And Ma Mie started asking himself,

If today you need us,

Why will we not carry

We are afraid that

"The child will be carried."

But never thought

The moment you want me to carry... how short it is.

None of the kids.

Be a baby forever.

None of the kids.

Please carry for life

One day...

You'll crawl gradually.

Gradually walk.

Gradually run.

Gradually take their own lives.

It's not because we carry less.

But because of the nature of every child,

Is growth.

So...

If today, Phoebus sings,

Ma Mie will carry

If you reach out today,

Ma Mie will hug

Not because wanting the stepdaughter to carry

But because Ma Mie knows that

You were a kid once.

And my arms.

Will be what you want.

Only a short period of life.

If anyone asks Ma Mi again that

"Carrying a baby often like this, aren't you afraid of a stepdaughter?"

Ma Mie probably smiles.

And said,

"Not afraid."

Because of what Ma Mie is more afraid of

Not carrying too many children.

But is...

The day you don't need this arm anymore.

And when that day comes,

Ma Mi believes that

No parents.

Sorry to have hugged the baby too much

But there are many other parents

That might regret...

Because leave the word

"I'll be stuck."

Made to miss a short time.

That you need our arms the most.

Because in the end...

Something that will carry you for the rest of your life.

Probably not a "carry."

But is the feeling that

Every time he needs mom and dad... he's never left alone. 🤍

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