📌 “You could at least use proper grammar…”
A mini blog about typos, assumptions, and why I stopped apologizing for how I communicate.
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I’ve seen the comments more times than I can count:
“Why can’t people spell anymore?”
“Grammar matters!”
“It’s hard to take someone seriously when they can’t even use the right ‘your.’”
And for a long time, I let those words shut me down.
Because here’s the truth: I’m dyslexic. I rely on spell check like it’s my co-pilot—but grammar? Grammar doesn’t come with built-in software. And sometimes, no matter how many ways I try to spell something, I still can’t get it close enough for the system to recognize it.
So yeah, my posts might have the occasional misspelled word. A sentence might come out clunky. But here’s what I’ve learned after 43 years of corrections, shame, and biting my tongue:
If you understood what I was trying to say—then it worked.
Because connection matters more than perfection.
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Not everyone who struggles with communication has a visible reason.
Some of us have ADHD and lose our train of thought mid-sentence.
Some are masking through anxiety.
Some are grieving, overstimulated, burnt out, or neurodivergent in a dozen quiet ways.
And some of us? We’re just doing the best we can with a brain that doesn’t always follow the “rules.”
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So when I see someone nitpicking typos, tone, or phrasing like it’s some moral failure… I don’t feel ashamed anymore.
I feel sad for them.
Because if you’re more concerned with correcting a sentence than hearing the heart behind it, that says more about you than it does about me.
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We live in a world where people are already hesitant to speak up. Do we really want to make it harder?
I’ll never be everyone’s cup of tea. But I’ll always choose people over polish, and kindness over correction.
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✨ If no one’s told you today:
Your words matter—even when they aren’t perfect.
You don’t have to be grammatically flawless to be worth listening to.
And you deserve space to speak without fear of being ridiculed.
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💬 Ever held back from posting something because you worried it wasn’t “written well enough”? Yeah, me too.
Let’s change that.
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In a world that often prioritizes perfection, it’s essential to recognize the impact of imperfections in communication. Many individuals struggle with writing, not due to a lack of effort, but because of challenges like dyslexia, ADHD, or anxiety. Acknowledging these varying background stories fosters an environment where everyone feels empowered to express themselves without the fear of judgment. The narrative around language is shifting. More people are advocating for inclusivity in conversations, understanding that the message's heart is paramount. It’s crucial to challenge societal norms that emphasize flawless writing over true connection. By doing so, we not only lift the burden off those who struggle than conform to unwritten rules but also create a richer discourse with diverse viewpoints. Additionally, discussions surrounding neurodiversity highlight the need for patience and compassion. Those who may find it difficult to articulate their thoughts will benefit from supportive and understanding communicative spaces. By focusing on intent rather than superficial errors, we celebrate authenticity in expression. As we navigate these conversations, remember: every voice counts, and the story behind the words matters far more than the spelling or grammar. Let’s champion an approach that not only values honesty and openness but encourages all individuals to share their truths, no matter how clumsy they may appear. After all, connection over perfection will always reign supreme.
