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What AVOIDENT WILL DO??

If you're dating an Avoident!

We ourselves are Avoident, too. ⚠️

And this is what most Avoirs feel before they leave you.

1.) We don't love you, but we're just afraid you're disappointed. If you start to know us better, then backing out makes us feel safer.

2.) The closeness of us makes us panic. If you need us more, the more we feel that we have lost our space when you have done nothing wrong.

3.) We start to feel that love is a compulsion, a compulsion, a compulsion, a compulsion, a compulsion, an emotion, and when we do too much, it starts to make us want to escape.

4.) We don't know what to say not to hurt you. We are quiet, not because we don't care, but we don't know how to communicate difficult emotions that don't ruin everything.

5.) We are not afraid of you, but we are afraid of being right, because deep down we are not sure how long we can be the person you want.

❗️ if we choose to disappear, it's not because you're not good enough, but because we still don't know how to live in love without losing ourselves.

If you're falling in love with an Avoident like us, what do you want to tell them?

# Toxic relationship # Trending # Avoident # Feelings # Lemon 8 Howtoo

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... Read moreจากประสบการณ์ที่ได้คบกับคนประเภท Avoidant มาก่อน ต้องบอกเลยว่าการเข้าใจลึก ๆ ว่าพวกเขากลัวอะไรและต้องการอะไรนั้นช่วยให้เรารักษาความสัมพันธ์ได้ดีขึ้นมาก คน Avoidant มักจะรู้สึกกังวลเมื่อต้องเผชิญกับความใกล้ชิดหรือการถูกเรียกร้องทางอารมณ์มาก ๆ พวกเขาไม่ใช่คนที่ไม่แคร์ แต่เป็นเพราะพวกเขากลัวว่าการเปิดใจมากเกินไปอาจจะทำให้ถูกทำร้ายหรือเสียความเป็นตัวเองไป อย่างเคสที่เราเจอมาก คือตอนที่พวกเขารู้สึกว่าความรักกลายเป็นการ "ฝืน" หรือการต้องอธิบายความรู้สึกซับซ้อนมากเกินไป เช่นนี้มันทำให้พวกเขาเลือกถอยออกมาเพื่อปกป้องตัวเองมากกว่า จากภาพของท้องฟ้ายามค่ำคืนที่มีพระจันทร์เสี้ยวและต้นไม้ในภาพ ก็เหมือนกับความรู้สึกที่ซ่อนอยู่ในคน Avoidant ซึ่งบางครั้งคือความเงียบ สงบ และกลัวที่จะสัมผัสความลึกของความสัมพันธ์มากเกินไป ดังนั้น การเข้าใจว่าการถอยออกมาไม่ใช่เพราะเราไม่ดีพอ แต่เพราะคนประเภทนี้ยังไม่รู้วิธีอยู่ร่วมกับความรักโดยไม่สูญเสียตัวเอง จะช่วยให้เรารักษาความสัมพันธ์ได้ดีขึ้นและสร้างพื้นที่ให้เขารู้สึกปลอดภัยมากขึ้น

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