Loving the wrong person
They say that when someone live a traumatic experience, your brain opts to hide it and not to remember. I had live in a toxic and dangerous relationship for 4 years. Some called the Estocolmo syndrome, I thought I loved this man, I did anything to support his dreams, his goals, I left all for him. We moving in to live together after 5 months dating. Everything was sweet and nice during the first year, but remember he started to take my car without telling me anything, he started to act funny, and one day on his bday he received a call and I picked it up the person on the other side, asked who I was and I said his lady. He asked who was it I said a woman who says is your girlfriend. He got mad and break hard because he was driving and slapped me so hard and kick me out of my car. I wandered around for over an hour until his mom pick me up. I was in shock 😳 because the way he treated me. Three more years went by and it was worst, it went from one slap to physical, psychological, emotional and sexual abuse. I fall deep into depression and felt that I was going down to hell. The wake up call was when he attempted to kill me. I didn’t reach out to my family before because being the oldest and living in an abusive relationship was a shame. But the moment came and I reach out to my mom who basically came to my rescue. I moved 2200 miles away, just for him to find me and terrorized me until he attempted to kill me again. He went back and forth to jail. One day he brought in his new girlfriend to town, she called me many names from A-Z and all I said was wait until he makes you live hell, so than come and talk to me…. To be continued….#wounded #surviving #vulnerablelove
Navigating the complexities of love can sometimes lead us down dark paths, especially when it involves toxic relationships. The journey of healing begins with recognizing the signs of emotional abuse, such as manipulation and gaslighting. Understanding the concept of Stockholm syndrome is essential; it often describes a scenario where victims feel bonded to their abuser, leading to confusion about love and loyalty. Healing from such experiences is not just about physical distance from the abuser, but also about rebuilding one's self-esteem and sense of identity. Professional help, like therapy or support groups, can be invaluable in this process. It encourages sharing experiences, promoting understanding, and fostering connections with those who have faced similar struggles. Moreover, educating friends and family about the dynamics of abusive relationships can create a robust support system. They can help victims recognize the toxicity and motivate them to seek help or escape. Awareness and education are powerful tools that can change perceptions and save lives. If you or someone you know is in a similar situation, it's crucial to reach out and remember: It's never too late to reclaim your life and find a path toward empowerment and healing. Together, we can break the cycle of abuse and foster healthier relationships.
I have a similar but shorter story. Abusers are all the same. They have a mask on at first. Giving you “everything you want”. Being “everything you want”. And then when you move in with them, you see the true them. They can’t wear a mask forever. I’m sorry you went through this. I escaped 1.5 years ago and still have