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When "honesty" becomes rare in love,

If asked what love needs, many people may answer "understanding," "empathy," or "sacrifice," but before love reaches them, there is one thing that should be the foundation of every relationship: "honesty.

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Over the years, it has been undeniable that the online world is so full of stories of infidelity, whether it's the experiences of ordinary people or public figures, that sometimes things that shouldn't be normal are seen as common, when honesty is not a special thing or a gift that should be given to a lover, but a fundamental quality that should exist from the day we decide to live with someone.

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Think of a couple who have been together for many years, through happy times and troubled times, who have broken up, reconciled, and given more than one chance. But what never changes is the repeated infidelity. Every time they get a chance, they come with a promise not to do it again. Every time they are forgiven, they come with a hope that everything will improve. But finally, the same thing happens again.

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This is the question of how many opportunities people should give before the word "forgive" becomes self-inflicted.

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Many people believe that one can change, and that may be true, but change must be proved through action, not just words, because infidelity is not an accident, and it is not an accidental thing, but a decision made by someone who already knows that action will hurt the person he says he loves.

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Of course, no relationship is perfect, every couple has a problem, an incomprehension, a day of quarrel, or even a day when feelings start to change, but those problems should not be used as an excuse to betray the other's trust.

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If one day love runs out, the best solution is not to sneak up on someone new, but to tell the truth and end the relationship honestly, because breaking up with honesty is better than staying deceived.

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Surprisingly, many times society appreciates "unfaithful" people as if they were special qualities, when, in reality, honesty should be the basis of every relationship, not something that should be particularly appreciated.

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Because love can start with feelings, but it can continue with trust, and trust will never happen without "honesty."

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In the end, love does not require the perfect person, but the person who is responsible for the other person's heart and chooses to be honest in the day of love, and dare to speak the truth in the day of unlove, because loving someone is not just saying "love" every day, but that he does not have to use it every day to be paranoid that one day the word "love" will be replaced by the word "unfaithful."

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