... Read moreYou know that feeling when you're super excited about a new goal, and you just want to tell everyone? I totally get it! I used to be that person, sharing every little detail of my dreams, my workout plans, my career aspirations... you name it. But over time, I realized something really important, and it's summed up perfectly in this quote: "Don't tell people your plans. Show them your results."
For me, this isn't about being secretive or distrustful; it's a powerful strategy for self-care and staying motivated. When I would share my big plans, sometimes I'd get well-meaning but ultimately discouraging advice, or even subtle doubts from others. It wasn't intentional on their part, but it often chipped away at my own excitement and confidence. It’s like, once you tell people, a part of your brain sometimes feels like you've already accomplished something, and that initial drive can fade before you've even started the real work.
I started experimenting with keeping my goals close to my chest. Instead of announcing I was going to write a book, I just... started writing. Instead of declaring a new fitness routine, I just showed up at the gym every day. And honestly, it was a game-changer! The energy I used to spend explaining my plans, I now channel directly into execution. There's a certain quiet power in working towards something without external pressure or the need for immediate validation. It becomes a deeply personal journey.
This approach has really boosted my motivation. My focus shifted from seeking approval to simply doing. When you're only accountable to yourself initially, you learn to trust your own process and celebrate small wins internally. And when you finally do achieve something, and you can proudly 'show them your results,' the satisfaction is immense. It speaks volumes without you having to say a word. Plus, it lets your achievements surprise and inspire others in a much more impactful way.
It’s also a fantastic self-care practice. Protecting your ideas and your energy from potential negativity means you're creating a safe space for your dreams to grow. It allows you the flexibility to adjust your path without feeling like you've failed an audience. You can pivot, learn, and grow without having to explain every step. Think about it: when you don't share, there's no premature praise that can make you complacent. There's no unsolicited criticism that can derail your confidence. It fosters a sense of inner resilience and grit. This philosophy encourages intrinsic motivation over extrinsic validation, which is far more sustainable in the long run. It also helps you avoid the 'talkers' trap – those who talk a big game but rarely follow through. By focusing on action, you align yourself with the 'doers'. It's about cultivating discipline and a deep sense of commitment to your own vision, free from external noise. So, if you're like me and have big dreams, maybe try this approach. Work in silence, trust your process, and let your amazing results do all the talking. It's been truly transformative for me, and I bet it can be for you too!