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Setting boundaries👑

When it comes to setting and enforcing boundaries, I am in full recovery from being a “people pleaser”- I like to call it “People Please Disease” for fun. I’ve always been surrounded by “habitual line-steppers!” It took for me to go to therapy to realize I had to do something different for my peace of mind.

Here are some tips for setting boundaries that have worked well for me:

✨Learn to recognize people who have abusive tendencies & patterns. If you don’t have a game plan, you will find yourself in a world of hurt. Then in true people-pleaser fashion, you will stay around & suffer silently. Going to therapy really helps with this. Domestic violence therapy changed my life.

✨Communicate your preferences. You have to teach people how to treat you. What’s acceptable with someone else may not be okay for you. Once you’ve stated your boundaries, it’s up to you to enforce them.

✨Say “no” to things that no longer serve you. Your needs matter.

✨Make people respect your time.

✨Return to heated conversations at a later time instead of staying engaged. Sometimes a cool down is necessary to collect your thoughts and communicate effectively.

✨Put your mental health first. Give to others from your overflow, not an empty cup.

✨Give people time to change, but if the change doesn’t happen or doesn’t suit your needs, walk away.

I really hope this helps. What are some ways you set boundaries to take care of yourself? Drop a comment.

#settingboundaries #selfcaretips #mentalhealthmatters #mentality #Lemon8Diary

2025/1/27 Edited to

Setting boundaries is vital for personal wellness and mental health. It's essential to recognize the signs of toxic relationships, which often begin with habitual line-stepping by others. Understanding your worth is crucial to defend your time and emotional space. Therapy can be a great resource to help you gain insight into abusive patterns and develop coping strategies. Communication of your preferences is key—teaching others how to treat you can clarify any misalignments between expectations and reality. Moreover, learning to say 'no' is a powerful skill. When you decline requests that drain you, you're not only respecting yourself but also setting a standard for future interactions. Remember, it's okay to take time to cool down after a heated conversation, allowing for more thoughtful decision-making. By placing your mental health first and giving from an 'overflow,' you ensure sustainable relationships. Ultimately, change takes time, and if someone doesn’t adapt to your boundaries, it may be necessary to reevaluate that connection. Continuously strive to refine your boundaries—it's a crucial aspect of self-care and self-respect.

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