This self-check told me more than I expected
I scored a 45 on this connection-to-self test… and I had to sit with that for a minute.
Because it says I have a strong sense of self and worth.
And honestly… I’ve been doing the work.
But what stood out to me wasn’t just the score—
it was realizing that this didn’t happen overnight.
There were moments where I didn’t feel like this.
Where I questioned myself, my worth, and what I deserved.
Now I can say:
✨ I know I bring a lot to the table
✨ I’m learning to be kinder to myself
✨ And I believe I’m lovable—even on the days I don’t feel like it
This wasn’t about being “perfect”
it was a reminder of how far I’ve come.
And I’m still growing.
Taking a connection-to-self test can be a powerful moment of insight. When I took mine and scored 45, it was a surprising reinforcement of the work I’d been quietly doing on myself. It gave me clear evidence that my sense of self-worth had become solid, but also reminded me that this kind of inner strength develops over time, not instantly. One thing I’ve realized on this journey is how important it is to shift from seeking validation externally to building a genuine relationship with yourself. The test’s scoring system highlighted that those with higher scores tend to have fewer challenges in relationships because they understand their own value well. For me, it was comforting to confirm that my foundation is strong—even on days when self-doubt creeps in. A key learning has been speaking kindly to myself. The test emphasized talking to myself respectfully and compassionately—meaning no harsh self-criticism, no character assassination. This mindful self-talk fosters a positive internal dialogue, which is essential for sustaining self-worth. Another interesting aspect was the belief that being lovable isn’t about perfection but about embracing your whole self, flaws and all. Recognizing that I am lovable even on difficult days helped me release unrealistic expectations of perfection and replaced them with self-acceptance. If you’re navigating your own path to self-love, I’d encourage you to be patient and kind with yourself. Growth soil truly is richest when you focus on yourself, especially in moments of solitude or singledom. The journey involves ups and downs, questioning and affirming, but every step forward is meaningful. Remember, scoring on such tests isn’t about an endpoint; it’s a snapshot of where you are while continuing to climb toward becoming your best self. Keep celebrating your progress, practicing self-compassion, and recognizing the unique value you bring to every relationship—including the one with yourself.