Being a mom and a wife at the same time is weird because the guilt overlaps constantly. If you’re focused on your kids, you feel like you’re neglecting your relationship. If you prioritize your relationship, you wonder if you’re being a bad mom. And if you take five seconds for yourself? Suddenl

Sometimes it’s not that your desire is gone… it’s just tired. Tired of carrying everything. Tired of being needed all day. Tired of never fully getting to turn off. Your body isn’t rejecting intimacy, it’s asking for space to feel safe, calm, and cared for first. Desire doesn’t always s

🍽️You’re not actually mad about the dishes.. You’re mad because: ✨you feel rejected ✨they feel pressured ✨and neither of you are saying it right Most couples don’t have a sex problem. They have a communication problem around sex. And it’s starting to become more obvious to both of you..

Okay let’s talk about it because the internet LOVES to act like this root is some magical body sculptor. Reality check… but also…like… 👀 Pueraria Mirifica is a plant from Thailand that contains very strong phytoestrogens (plant compounds that act similar to estrogen in your body). Which is wh

Desire is funny like that. Most people grow up thinking it’s a switch — something that should just turn on automatically, consistently, predictably. Like attraction + relationship = effortless libido forever. But that’s not how humans work. Desire is far less like a button… and far more l

🩷You’re not actually mad about the dishes… ❤️ You’re mad because it’s been a minute since you felt close. Because every touch feels like it comes with expectations. Because asking for intimacy feels riskier than starting a fight. 🩷 So the sink becomes the battlefield. ❤️One of you is think

🌕 Tonight’s moon is called the Snow Moon—named for the heaviest snows that usually fall this time of year. It always feels extra big, extra bright, and a little pinkish through winter clouds, like it’s checking in on us. ☃️The Snow Moon is about rest, reflection, and quiet strength. This isn’t a

Religious trauma doesn’t stop at church. It follows people into their bedrooms. It shows up as shame after pleasure. Confusion around desire. Freezing when intimacy gets real. If you were taught your body was “dangerous,” don’t be shocked when your nervous system still flinches. That’s

❤️‍🔥I’m just gonna say it: ❌I’m not marrying someone I’ve never had sex with. ❌I’m not rolling the dice on my entire marriage and hoping the bedroom magically works out. Absolutely not. I need a partner who matches me — my desire, my pace, my curiosity, my stamina. Like… are we into the s

Okay sooo… clearly my last post got the girlies TALKING because y’all ran those views UP. 😭💚 So let me go ahead and say this in plain Shae language: Yes, I love Jesus. Yes, I’m a lesbian. And yes, I absolutely believe in healthy, happy, connected, grown-woman intimacy. Ain’t nothing about th

Listen… I’m gonna say what everybody else is scared to say: You can be a Christian AND be a sexual human being. God did not forget to disable your hormones when you got saved. 😭 Some of y’all were raised to believe desire = sin. No, babe. Desire makes you HUMAN. God literally designed connect

Being “low maintenance” isn’t a personality trait. It’s what you learn when asking for too much feels unsafe. You didn’t become easy because you wanted to. You became easy because it kept the peace. Because it reduced conflict. Because it made you easier to stay with. Somewhere along the

As we step into a brand-new year, I just want to pause and say thank you. This community has grown in ways I never imagined, and I’m so grateful for every follow, comment, DM, and conversation we’ve shared. 💗 This year brought so many wins: • 13.8K incredible humans on Lemon8 • New coaching jo

This year, we’re ditching toxic “fix yourself” goals and choosing nervous-system-friendly, pleasure-positive intentions instead. Here are a few resolutions that actually make a difference 👇 💭 Prioritize rest without guilt Burnout kills desire and joy. Rest is productive. 🧠 Name your feeli

I am absolutely DYING to know. What is the WILDEST thing that’s ever happened in one of your relationships, sneaky-links, or maybe even just on a date? I’m a certified relationship & intimacy educator, and I’m collecting your most jaw-dropping, laugh-out-loud, “I cannot believe this actually

❤️‍🔥Hot take: ⚠️Your “toxic patterns” are just trauma responses with better PR. BUT Before you call yourself dramatic, needy, avoidant, or too much— understand this: If love was inconsistent, your body learned to stay on edge. If emotions weren’t safe, silence became protection. If bound

Being a sex & intimacy educator does not mean I am: • sexually available • open to explicit messages • offering sexual services • consenting to being objectified Education is about consent, communication, safety, and self-respect. It is not an invitation for sexual entitlement. When

Desire isn’t just about attraction. It’s about capacity. When your nervous system is overwhelmed, overextended, or emotionally saturated, desire is usually the first thing to go. Not because you don’t care. Not because you’re broken. Not because something is “wrong” with you. But becaus

(from a sex & intimacy educator — hi, it’s me 👋) Let’s clear a few things up because these myths are killing people’s confidence and ruining perfectly good relationships: 1️⃣ “After kids your sex life is over.” No, it just changes. Connection evolves. Desire returns. And honestly? Someti