SHE REALIZED SHE NEVER BEEN PUT FIRST IN HER ENTIR

It's incredibly eye-opening when you come to the realization that your needs and feelings have consistently taken a backseat to others'. For years, I found myself in relationships and friendships where I was the person who supported others through their struggles, filled emotional gaps, and gave my attention selflessly. Yet, when I needed support or validation, I was often overlooked or made to feel insignificant. This feeling of being the 'void filler' — someone who is only valued when others require something — can be emotionally draining. Over time, I began to notice patterns where my well-being was compromised because I never prioritized myself. This recognition was painful but necessary. Understanding that I had never truly been put first pushed me to reevaluate my boundaries and the way I interact with people. I've learned that self-worth doesn't come from others acknowledging you; it comes from within. Setting boundaries was a difficult but empowering step. It meant saying no when I needed to, prioritizing my mental and emotional health, and allowing myself to receive care rather than just give it. For anyone who has experienced this, it’s crucial to remember that your value isn’t dependent on how much you do for others. You deserve to be first in your life — to be treated with respect, kindness, and consideration. Taking small steps to focus on your own needs can lead to healthier relationships and a stronger sense of self. Embrace the journey of putting yourself first; it’s not selfish, it’s necessary for your happiness and growth.