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First Date Questions To Expose Red Flags

First dates aren’t about impressing each other — they’re about gathering information.

The right questions won’t feel interrogative.

They’ll feel natural, curious, and revealing.

You’re not looking for perfect answers.

You’re listening for accountability, emotional awareness, and consistency.

Red flags usually don’t hide — they get revealed when people talk about their past, their habits, and how they handle discomfort.

Ask better questions.

Watch patterns early.

And trust what you hear the first time.

Original content by @spread.app

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