Training Through the Heavy Times
Four months ago, I lost my dad to lymphoma. I still catch myself thinking he’s just at his desk, or half-expect to hear YouTube blasting from his phone while he naps on the couch.
The "after" is strange—you’re grieving, but you still have to function. In that blur, I realized my training is my primary form of self-regulation. When I’m lifting, it’s just me and the muscle. The world is quiet.
Lifting isn't a magic fix for a broken heart. But it’s where I pour my grief, my anger, and my “everything” into the reps. I don’t train to "look" a certain way; I train to feel lighter on the inside. 🤍💪
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Losing a loved one is one of the most profound emotional challenges many of us face, and finding healthy ways to cope is essential for recovery. From my personal perspective, I have found that incorporating consistent strength training into my routine during difficult times has been incredibly beneficial. The act of lifting weights offers a unique focus—each rep demands attention and physical presence, which helps quiet the overwhelming noise of grief. When grief feels heavy and pervasive, training can serve as a form of moving meditation. The physical exertion allows the release of built-up stress and sadness, while the routine provides a sense of control and accomplishment amidst the loss. This approach goes beyond the physical benefits of exercise; it becomes a vital emotional outlet where feelings like anger, sadness, and frustration can be transformed into positive energy. Importantly, training does not aim at changing appearance but rather nurturing inner resilience and lightness. Many adults, especially women over 40 or those experiencing perimenopause, find that this type of fitness supports not only their physical health but also mental clarity and emotional balance during transitional life stages. Incorporating training into a grief recovery journey might begin with small, manageable goals—simple weightlifting sessions or bodyweight exercises at home can be a great start. Over time, as strength builds, so can confidence and emotional well-being. Connecting with fitness communities, including local groups or online forums dedicated to over-40 fitness, can provide additional support and motivation. Ultimately, while training cannot erase the pain of loss, it provides a purposeful way to channel emotions and foster healing. For anyone navigating the ‘‘after’’ of grief, embracing fitness as a form of self-care might offer both comfort and empowerment in the challenging journey forward.
